The Four Agreements.

1. Be Impeccable with your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.


I love the Four Agreements. I printed them out and am putting them next to my door in my bedroom, just to remember.

Okay, so update on all things big and small in the village life. I went to London last weekend and it was really incredible. London is my favorite city in the whole world and, if it weren't for the weather, I would love to live there and work for a magazine. Luckily, the weather was sunny and relatively warm--thank you weather gods.

Tomorrow I'm going on another long field trip with the little kids. We are going to Gibraltar, leaving Posadas at 6:30 am--insert head slap here..way too early--it's technically under UK jurisdiction but Spain wants it back, it should be a really interesting experience, apparently there are monkeys everywhere. Vamos a Ver.

On Friday morning, i'm catching a train to Sevilla because Maria Bravo (my favorite teacher) invited me to go to the beach in Huelva, where she lives. A couple of other teachers are going and I'm sure it'll be a fun weekend. I'm not sure when we are coming back because it's Feria in Posadas and we have Friday/Monday off school.

And just to keep the traveling in overdrive, i'm going to Paris the following weekend.

Then before you know it, I will be attempting to make it back to the United States on June 4th. Why is it going to be an attempt? Because I have 2 massive suitcases and a massive backpack. I think they all outweigh me by hundreds of pounds lol. I have to take drag them to the train station, take a train, drag them to the bus to get to the airport, and then lug them to the check in desk. I really don't want to be in the airport overnight but I don't think there is any other way since my flight leaves at 7:30 am. Luckily, I've become pretty capable at travel glitches. However, I am really excited because I get into Phoenix around 5:45 pm and I can actually CALL Amy to wish her a happy birthday :) That makes me really happy--I miss talking to you guys.

Alright, i'm STARVING. So i'm going home and then going to a tutoring session, playing tennis with a student, and grabbing a coffee with Maria Bravo.

Adios

La Douleur Exquise

So my book is a work in progress--the plot has changed and so to must the title. These are my go to reference quotes.


A final comfort that is small, but not cold: The heart is the only broken instrument that works. ~T.E. Kalem

Have you ever been hurt and the place tries to heal a bit, and you just pull the scar off of it over and over again. ~Rosa Park

I thought when love for you died, I should die.
It's dead. Alone, most strangely, I live on.
~Rupert Brooke

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together. ~Author Unknown

“Every adversity, every failure, and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or a greater benefit”

“The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.”

A more honest place.

There's been a shift. I was re-reading my "Pre-Epic Adventure" and I feel so distant from that person. I don't feel like that was me. I feel like that was a semblance of my former self. I'm not sure how to explain this..but I feel like i've let go of my inner demons. I don't feel the weight of my relationship with my father..the world isn't on my shoulders..and I take each day as it comes. The phrase "take it day by day" used to be absurd to me..now it's my mantra. One day at a time. One step at a time.

I've done things I never thought I would do, tried things I never thought I would like, and been places I never thought I would see. I also learned the difference between loneliness and solitude. I have discovered contentment in solitude, but sometimes my life is lonely without your presence.

But, the most important thing I've stumbled upon here..is that my life has been mine.

I've really come into my own and I feel like my life is going to be different now. I feel comfortable in my own skin, aware of my limitations and strengths. I had to confront myself..and I what I found out is that I'm tougher than I thought. Traveling has forced me to become more flexible, patient, and passive. I don't get worked up about delays or staying up all night on buses, trains, or flights--I simply shrug my shoulders, read a book and listen to my iPod. Who would have thought? I also never thought I would love to cook..strange. Or, more importantly, that I would want to become a teacher. I love kids so much and I think teaching is amazing. Everyday is different and you really build relationships with your students. I'm going to wait to do U of A's masters program instead of starting USC in June. It's a 30,000 dollar difference...and I'd rather not start my life in debt...even if I am ready to start teaching asap. Patience.

I think all along my friends have believed in me, I guess it took surviving in a village to make me believe in myself as well. Odd. Maybe we all need to spend 6 months in a village surrounded by farm fields to learn who we really are and what we are made of. Or maybe, we all come into our own at different times in our lives and under varying degrees of pressure and change.

I never thought this experience would change me. Maybe it hasn't changed me as much as it has bettered me? I had alot of things I needed to work on, especially letting people in. I've started thinking that life is too short to keep your guard up, in all relationships, sometimes it's better just to give all of yourself, not half, because I think at the end of the day you get what you give. I hope i'm not as guarded as I used to be, I think I was just so hurt by my father that I didn't ever want to put myself in a position to feel weak or exposed..even to my friends..but I think i've fully healed from that and i'm ready to move on to a better place, a more honest place.

So, that's what was on my mind tonight. I also just procrastinated packing for London. The weekend is going to be rainy and cold (but what else could be expected) and I'm really excited to see my favorite places. I would love to live in London permanently if it weren't for the weather. Rainy days just don't compare to running in the sunshine.

Speaking of which, various teachers have asked me about the colorless circle on my face. I used to have a medium sized freckle and now it's gone, and in it's place is a pinkish-white circle. It's dime sized. I haven't had time to look it up but I think i'm going to have to go to the doctor--Maria Bravo is going on Tuesday and she is going to ask him whether or not I should come in. I'm feeling kind of stupid for not wearing sunblock on my runs now. Vamos a ver. I'm keeping my fingers crossed and trying not to worry about it, it's probably nothing.

Two poems that changed my life :)

i carry your heart with me
by EE Cummings

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
i fear
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)


IF by Rudyard Kipling

IF you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!'

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
' Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch,
if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!

Preface to my book

Preface
“It’s the words gone unsaid, unheard--but not unfelt. He was a mystery, is a mystery. He is layers and layers, that have been exposed over time.
We had this amazing magnetism--where with a single look, sparks started flying. Hypnotic undercurrents that made the words unspoken absolutely impossible to be said.
I’m afraid. If I tell him what I want, what I need, that it, him, will disappear like all this chemistry and sexual tension were an unlivable, impossible fantasy.
He moves me.
He has this gaze that makes me suddenly breathless, tongue-tied, helpless.”
“What is it that you want?”
I paused, repeating the question as my fingers rapped against the table, “What do I want? What do I want..?”
In that moment, I was finally honest with myself. My epiphany. The big realization, “I just..I just..want..him.”
The reason I fouled up, said the wrong things, choked and divulged superficial word vomit was because, in spite of everything, I genuinely, haphazardly loved this man. I loved him. I loved him for his complexity, humor, brutal honesty, and strength.
Although we were both survivors--could we survive the roughage of dating? We had put each other through the wringer--with mixed messages, bad timing and pride. But, after time apart, had we healed and grown enough individually to make room for the other? Could we, somehow, make it work?
After everything--would it all add up to nothing?
I knew what I wanted--but then the doubt started washing over me--is it possible that our..chemistry..could outlast all the misunderstandings and confusion? Overcome our pride to lay it all out on the table--to hear the answer to my unaskable question.
I was scared. For the first time in my life, I was going to make the grand gesture. They say love is like jumping off a building, would he be there to catch me? Or was I about to fall flat on my face?
I wasn’t sure if I would survive--I knew I had to find out.
Ready, Set...Leap.

One crazy trip

So Greece was amazing. It was nothing like I expected but it was a wonderful experience. It was also really nice to eat Greek food, my favorite is Gemista (vegetable stuffed with rice, raisins, and nuts)

There were a lot of Americans staying at the Student and Travelers Inn which was really..comforting? It's funny, to be in a country completely different, where you don't speak the language and hear people walking by speaking in English. I've decided Greek would be a really difficult language to learn, I gave up trying to figure it out after the first 2 hours.

The trip went really smoothly, no traveling hitches or complications. Will went with me, and we took the 1 am overnight bus from Cordoba to Madrid, it arrived at 5:45 am which gave us enough time to get to the airport (the black hole of Madrid airport) and catch our flight at 8:30 am. We stopped in Budapest, Hungary and then continued onto Athens. We arrived at 3:45 and successfully stayed up to catch the processions at the church down the street that started at 9. It was really interesting to see how 2 countries celebrated Easter (Spain, last week during Semana Santa and Greece this past weekend). They were very different but both really special.

The next morning we did a walking tour all over the city (Acropolis, Agora, Temple of Zeus, Hadrian's Arch, etc.,) and it was really amazing to be in the middle of a bustling city that had so much history. I can't really explain, but the nerd in me was really content.

Afterwards, a group of us went to the Cathedral to see the festivities for Saturday and then to dinner around 1 am to eat the typical Easter meal (lamb soup..lamb innards, lamb everything) After seeing the lamb being roasted infront of us..I think we lost our appetite. It was a 9 euro disappointment. Amazingly, jamon didn't seem so bad after that.

The next morning we went and hiked to the highest point of the city. There is a little cathedral at the top, and you get a complete panorama of the city. The hike was harder than any of us had anticipated and bees were bumbling about all over the place. After that, I went with the girls who were studying in Cairo around the city and stopped in each stop to look at everything..we found Greek armor and went nuts.

Monday was my birthday, and in the morning all I wanted was a Caramel macchiato from Starbucks (there are 4 in Athens) so we left the hotel relatively early and I sat, completely intent watching the workers set up for the day. Greek coffee was really different, at first I was worried that they made it wrong because they keep the coffee grounds in the bottom of the cup, so it has a grainy flavor. Kind of different :)

After taking the overnight bus again and flying 6 hours..I wasn't too thrilled to start teaching immediately upon arrival at 7:30 am in Posadas. I taught for the rest of the afternoon and then went home, made pasta because I was feeling totally lazy, and ended up sleeping until this morning. Basically, I went into a coma.

Wednesdays are my short days, and today I don't have tutoring in the evening so i'm going back to Alajar to get my hair cut at 1. My classes today were kind of frustrating. The students in Third Year really don't care about learning. They were really talkative, drumming at their desks, clicking their pens, walking around, playing with eachother's hair, etc. After yesterdays class with the rude/insolent boys in the back of the class, I was kind of drained by talking over the students. Discipline is relatively impossible at the school..because the students who misbehave want to get suspended and expelled so they don't have to come anymore.

When did education become a punishment?

I feel bad, the students are mixed, so there are students with learning disabilities, slow learners, and really smart, dedicated students in the same class. Some kids don't even take notes or pay attention, at all. It's just..frustrating. Maria Bravo was really bothered by them today in class as well..she said she's exhausted and doesn't know what to do with the students. Yesterday a boy put a chair over his head and stood up in class, when she caught him, she made him come to the front of the room and hold the desk over his head but it just ended up distracting the students. It's hard to punish them without giving them the suspension they want (aka, going to the principals office) letters are sent home and on the third letter they get suspended. So how do you punish students that want to be punished? I need help...not really sure how to handle it.

This weekend I'm going to London and we leave on Friday and come back on Monday. I'm trying to create a "must see" list..I definitely want to go back to the British Museum, see Big Ben, and visit a couple parks and gardens. I'm excited to go, although it's going to be drab weather, London is still my favorite city to visit.

Missing you, thanks for all the birthday wishes!

I haven't slept in 48 hours..but

I made it to Athens! It's also Easter this weekend here, so tonight we went to a procession at the old church down the street. I took a video because I wanted you guys to see what I see. I'll post it when I get home. Tomorrow i'm going on a walking tour to all the major sites and I'm very excited. I've dreamed about coming here my entire life..and..well there aren't really words. The only thing that could make Greece any better is being here with you guys--I miss you, wish you were here.

I met a lot of people in Europe. I even encountered myself. ~James Baldwin

“Our battered suitcases were piled on the sidewalk again; we had longer ways to go. But no matter, the road is life.” - Jack Kerouac

“Traveling is a brutality. It forces you to trust strangers and to lose sight of all that familiar comfort of home and friends. You are constantly off balance. Nothing is yours except the essential things - air, sleep, dreams, the sea, the sky - all things tending towards the eternal or what we imagine of it.” - Cesare Pavese

Nice Guys Finish Last. Total thus far..enjoy all 63 pages lol

Nice Guys Finish Last

 I didn't ask for this. I thought it was what I wanted, but it is an absolute disaster. Years ago, when I was getting dirt thrown at me during recess, I would cry and wish for my Prince Charming. But, it is true, what our parents would warn us about before sleepovers--three is definitely a crowd.
My love life has become a sordid three ring circus, starring the apologetic ex, stable boyfriend, and the can'thavehimbutwanthim crush. You are probably judging me, I don't blame you--some nights I lay awake and judge myself.
Let me explain, my name is Delaney James..and my life is well, a mess. I swear it started when I was a little girl in preschool. I was sitting on the swings, whirling myself around on the tip of my toes--when it hit me, well he hit me. Derek..you know the guy that was even cool at age 5? He knocked me off the swing and went off running to help Princess Jessica. As I lay there with my chin in the mud, it occurred to me that the damsel in distress will always win the Prince.
Have you ever taken the time to look up the word damsel? Well, it means a young, unmarried woman. A few months ago, that definition would have incited fear and images of several cats, but now, with more than one Prince in the story, the simple fairy tale I've counted on my entire life is suddenly...well complicated.
It's 11 a.m. and I'm still in bed. Tangled up uncomfortably in cold sheets--I can still smell him on my skin. It isn't a cologne per se but something more crisp. Jason smells like mountain scented detergent. I tucked my nose into the T-shirt he left crumpled on the side of the bed and took a deep breath. It occurred to me then that I missed him and his annoying chipper morning attitude.
The first night he stayed over I knew it wouldn't work out--he rolled over, morning breath and all, planted a big kiss on me and breathed, "Good morning, beautiful." It wasn’t sexy, it wasn’t movie-chic, but it was real. It was circa 7 a.m., I could smell the sleep escaping his mouth and was instantly resentful that I had to be an object worthy of adoration that early. Three blissful months later, I am accepting that this rational man believes my bed-head, mismatched boyish pajamas, leftover makeup, and rank morning breath are adorable, somedays even lovable. What we have, however unoriginal or unexceptional, is real.
Jason came into my life in an oddly storybook way. I was dragging behind my oversized golden retriever in the park, when Bachi took off running after a stray football. Before I knew it, I was partaking in a game of chase with a dog and my least favorite sports object. Sprinting clumsily in my flip flops, dodging small children and waving off disapproving mothers, it occurred to me that I was completely out of my league with this dog. I keeled over with my hands on my knees, eyeing him in defeat. "You win, you're in charge. Just hand over the ball," I crooned, reaching slowly to pick up the leash.
I had cornered Bachi against a big Oak tree, beckoning him forward repeating the word "treat" innocently, desperately. The drool oozed around the ball wedged in his teeth, and the low growl implied my tactics were a no go. Suddenly, a whistle and leg pat coming from behind me turned Bachi back into an obedient dog. Typical, as if nothing had happened. Jason smiled up at me smugly, holding him in a playful chokehold as the ball dropped easily to the grass.
    He extended his hand, "Looks like your dog just kicked my ass as wide receiver. I'm Jason Stech."
Cute, very cute. His playful hazel eyes took me in, a hot mess. My hair had fallen from the loose ponytail and stuck to my conveniently make-up less face. Embarrassed, I shook it lightly, and attempted to wipe the dazzled look off my face, 
"Delaney...and this well-behaved dog is Bachi. I can't thank you enough. I definitely have my hands full with this guy," I trailed off and patted the dog.
 His confidence caught me off guard, "Well, you could thank me by going out to dinner with me tomorrow." 
   I agreed to dinner, and coffee later that day. I broke the faux unavailable rule after two months of dateless weekends, and the iron will to mend my embittered heart.


Chapter 2
Shit. I was supposed to call Sara an hour ago.  I looked at the night stand clock, 5:30 p.m.,  I have no idea where time goes.  I threw the comforter off the bed, digging through the blankets to find my cell phone. 
"Yo," was her answer.  
"Yo? Been indulging in some BET?" I retorted, pulling my dirty jeans on from the floor. 
"That's my business.  Starbucks?" She replied mysteriously.
"Sounds good, I'm rolling out of bed as we speak--are you put together?"
"Mmm..," I could tell she was checking herself out in the mirror, "Decent.  I'll see you in a bit." 
      I decided it wasn't right to wear two dirty clothes items, so I rustled through my closet to find a clean t-shirt and baseball cap to cover up my bed head.  I had this obsession with baseball caps, so much so that Jason bought me a CAL hat that had my name embroidered on the back.  His nickname for me was Dee.  Unoriginal, but it was the first nickname I'd had since grade school when bullies called me Delaney the Dummy, it wasn’t the best of times.   Anyway, it is my favorite hat.  I grabbed the keys off the dresser, slid into my favorite go to J-crew flip flops, and shoved my wallet and phone into a purse that was much too big and expensive to serve any practical purpose.  
     Driving to Starbucks mid-afternoon is my favorite thing.  I love people watching at the esplanade--you get a great mix of bored socialite housewives and everyone else who tries too hard.  Being in the presence of such material perfection makes me aware of my own flaws. I've never been the type of girl who is put together well; something is always amiss.  I look at other women and sigh to myself and think--how do you do it?  Does it take as much as time as I imagine it does? Or is there some pampering secret they are holding out from the rest of us?
    God bless my mother for trying so hard.  She would practically have to pry my food-smeared uniform skirts from my hands in high school to be washed regularly.  To me,  it just never really mattered.  I have been an athlete my entire life, thus beauty always came second to extra sleep.   That saying about "dressing for the day" just makes me laugh--it just makes you all the more furious when something gets spilled on your expensive blouse or suede boots.  Which always happens the moment you decide it's worth the risk on a random afternoon outing.  
    Sara was never hard to find, she always wore colors you wouldn't think existed outside some narcotic inspired rainbow.  She pulled it off either way.  Today was particularly festive, peacock blue with some kind of emerald green beading. 
"My love!" I crooned, enveloping her in a hug.  
     My favorite thing about Sara was how much personality she packed into her petite 5'1" frame. Her happiness bubbled over and onto anyone in her vicinity, contagious.   "You look just lovely," she taunted.  
"Oh please, like I care.  I overslept this morning," I replied nonchalantly, opening the door into the familiar shop.  
I love the smell of coffee, and the sound of newspapers crumpling.  But the very best thing about Starbucks is that no matter what state or country you are in--they all feel like your local spot.  She looked at me skeptically, pulling a ball of lint off my pocket, 
"Oh fine, Jason's out of town. Give me a break." 
She laughed easily and loudly.  That always bothered me but I never mentioned it--it was blasphemous to imagine Sara with anything but a loud laugh. 
"So, since the ball and chain is on vaca--what are you doing this weekend? Specifically, tonight?" 
   "Mm..you caught me.  I was going to.." I paused thinking of what my real options were.  Walk Bachi, watch lifetime, or maybe if I was feeling really spontaneous I would read the new romance novel I had secretly purchased. "Actually, what did you have mind?" 
  Sara worked for 3-4 Marketing and somehow knew everyone,  which led to great perks at club openings, etc. Her life was pretty glamorous, sometimes I was envious and then other times I was perfectly content with my quiet, predictable existence.  The one thing about Sara that both stumped and inspired me was her disinterest in serious relationships.  She had ended things bitterly with her ex Mario a couple years ago after dating throughout college.  Nobody really understood it at the time, they seemed happy, but she explained it as an early-life crisis and decided any type of commitment was too much to ask for now.  Her blackberry danced on the table, sending ripples through my black coffee, "Working on Friday afternoon?" I inquired.
An annoyed sigh escaped her lips, "It's Keith."
"Oooh...Keith? Really? I thought you ended that." I trailed off, watching a woman outside force her miniature poodle into a hellacious louis vuitton bag, screeching and yapping.  I scrunched up my nose, almost feeling sorry for the pink clad creature. I turned back to observe Sara. 
"Well I did, er..I was going to.  He is fun.  We do have fun. But I just feel like he is so frou-frou.  And really, he’s a talent scout for a modeling agency? Sketch. I’ll never be able to compete with 6’0 models." Her eyebrows raised slightly reading over the text, "Speaking of fun, I was going to see if you wanted to go the Pussycat Lounge, but Keith's label is actually having a promotion at Dirty Pretty.  Fun, right?" She purred. 
I could just see it now.  Sara and I dressed to the nines, weaving our way through a bunch of over-tanned, platinum barbie lookalikes, while men flaunting cheesy pick-up lines crowded around the perimeter of the dance floor, looking ravenous and ready to pounce.  I bit my lower lip, on the other hand it would be nice to get out and let loose.  
"Evan's going to be there. I think I forgot to mention that." Her eyes sparkled in mischief.
I almost choked on my coffee, "Evan? My Evan?" 
"Yes, Evan whom you should make beautiful babies with." She joked, tossing her hair and eyeing me curiously.  
I rolled my eyes, "Beautiful babies are the last thing on my list, but thanks.  I don't know, that could be interesting.  Maybe too interesting," I paused, folding the Splenda wrapper into squares, " I mean..ugh, he may not even want to see me." The truth hung in the air, and I immediately wanted to snatch the words back and shove them into my mouth.  
"Not want to see you? You really are out of your damn mind. You’re too gorgeous as it is. And, seriously,  what do you expect? The guy is only going to give you so many opportunities before rolling over to the next girl."
Her words hit me like cold water, I don't know if I could really tell you why.  Evan was the one guy I just couldn't shake.  There are relationships where you have the upper-hand, and relationships where you are just tongue tied the minute they walk into the room.  We had a checkered past, nothing serious, but he popped into my mind from time to time.  The guy I wanted but couldn't have.  
"I don’t care if I see him or not, that’s in the past,” I wasn’t sure if I was trying to convince her or myself, “what time would we need to be there?" I surrendered, seeing Evan had peaked my interest.  I wondered what he would say when he saw me? Does he think about me too? My pocket vibrated, bringing me back to reality--Jason was calling. 

Chapter 3

It hit me as I sat at the end of my bed, putting on my earrings and my black stilettos, I’m a terrible person. Why was I even going to this party? I could argue that I wanted to get out and have a couple drinks. I could argue that it was what I used to do, before my life turned into a “we’re staying in” phrase on repeat.
But, the truth was, I wanted to see him. I wanted to show him what he was missing out on. Like I said, I’m a terrible person.
I looked at my night table, a picture of my mother was staring back at me, smiling, “Mom..am I crazy?” I asked with a sigh, the picture didn’t have an answer.
I walked into my bathroom to the full length mirror, eyeing myself critically, not bad. I had to admit I loved seeing the hard work I had put in at pilates in my purple backless dress, for tonight the sweats would stay where they belonged--in the laundry basket. I smiled and sprayed my neck and wrists with my favorite perfume; the room filled with the intoxicating scent of sweet coconut. I blew a kiss to my parents photo hanging by the front door, gave Bachi a puperoni treat, and walked out.
I sashayed carefully down the stairs and felt the heat hit me with a whoosh of the front doors. A group of men walked by and whistled, adding a bit of confidence to my stride.
Have you noticed that during the day, in the midst of your daily activities, a whistle can just as quickly add a bit of irritation to your face? As if to compensate for all my other eye rolls, I waved and offered a smile as I walked around the corner to the coffee shop I was meeting Sara at.
“Well looooook at you!” Sara cooed, squeezing me lightly.
“Clean up nice, eh?” I smirked, as she extended a double-shot espresso in my direction, “You know me too well.”
She took my wrists in her hands, inspecting, then looking down at my ankle, “Wait. No ball and chain? Where are the handcuffs?”
I laughed, “Oh come on, It’s not like that.”
“Oh really? When was the last time we went out, I mean we, sans Mr. Rogers.”
I paused, it upset me that I had to think about the last time I went out, “Well, I mean, I guess I’ve just been..” I trailed off, saved by the entrance of Amber.

Amber was the token girl from every chick-flick. She was beautiful, humble, smart, and caring. The one thing holding her back was her lack of confidence, every beautiful outfit was stunted by the “I look like shit” label she gave herself. She had a huge heart in a tiny body, with the type of curves that every woman wishes she had and men wonder what to do with. As soft as her personality was, her fashion was anything but wallflower. Tonight she was wearing a shimmering gold flapper dress and killer heels that made her about as tall as I was without mine.
“Amber, you look beau-ti-ful!” We buzzed in unison, before giving each other a look that said ‘we spend way too much time together.’
“Ugh, please. I look like a whale, can you tell I’m bloated?” She turned to the side, revealing nothing but an hourglass shape.
“Um, are you kidding? I love your hair, the blonde is a good color on you. Where’s Kyle?”
She sat, taking a deep breath, “He’s back with her.”
“What? No way. Her? Why?” I felt jolted, why is it that the slutty girls always get their guy? But the good girls, are left to meet their girlfriends, dressed up and beautiful, alone.
“Don’t laugh, but he took his single status off facebook.” The words bubbled up slowly, “I mean why would he do that unless it was her again. I mean we had been talking and I really thought when he came back into town we would become official. I feel so stupid.”
“Oh sweetie, no. You’re way too classy for this crap” Sara offered, extending me the helpless look that said, ‘I can’t think of something to say, so think quick!’
I took over, “Are you sure? Did he say anything? I mean, seriously, it’s just facebook. Guys aren’t supposed to pay attention to that anyway.”
Her big honey-brown eyes looked up under the veil of jet black lashes, “Yeah, maybe. No, I mean he had been calling alot..again, you know how it is between us.”
“Well, see? Maybe it’s nothing. Look, let it go for tonight. You look beautiful, and we’re going to a fabulous club.” Sara smiled, applying her lipgloss.
“I’m sure it’s nothing,” I took her hand and gave it a meaningful squeeze.
“Love the nail polish.” She laughed, dropping my dark red tipped finger.
“Shall we?” I smiled picking up my clutch, feeling more like myself than I had in a long time, intertwining my fingers with Amber’s as I pulled her out of the chair begrudgingly,
“Fine, But I expect a bottle of wine to myself tonight.”


The club was packed, and the line was already back to the end of the building. I looked down at my cellphone, it was only 10:30.
“Seriously? Apparently everyone had the same idea of getting here early.” I pouted, moving to the back of the line, mentally calculating how long it would take to get to the front, if ever.
“What are you doing? I know the door guy, he’s been trying to sleep with me for a few weeks now. Tell me what you think.”
I interlocked arms with Amber and moved past all the people throwing knives in my back, walking up to the front of the surprised to see the handsome bouncer in front of me.
“Elijah, these are my bestfriends--this is Delaney and this is Amber. Think you can make an exception for us?” She said, her eyes smoldering into his. Sara had a way of manipulating men, not by playing dumb, but rather by playing up her sexuality.
It was simple maneuvers, like adjusting her cleavage, smoothing over her shorts, or simply by staring into their eyes in unadulterated flirtation. I almost felt myself blushing, as she bit her lip and stared up at him curiously.
“Sure, sure--I’m done at 12, so I’ll come find you by the bar.” He murmured, staring after us.
She turned, giggling “Deal.”
“Wow, well played. Are you really even interested in that guy? He didn’t seem like your type. By the way...is Keith here?” The truth was, her type was skinny, artsy guys. Elijah was more of the generic beautiful man: muscled, mulatto, with piercing blue eyes.
“Not sure, he could be. For now. Oh, and Keith is officially done. Earlier when we were texting he pulled out the girlfriend card, he started calling me “baby,” it had to end. What am I, 12?” She laughed, pulling us through the pulsating crowd.
I nodded in agreement. In my experience, any guy who starts using pet names early while dating, is either a stage 5 clinger or a total dirtbag. It’s almost like they are trying to reel you in with false intimacy, it’s too soon, and it’s a warning sign that should never be over looked.
The club was dark, there was something exhilarating about the decor--seductive. We moved toward the glowing bar, and I obliged to move first since I was the tallest and a little more abrupt than the other two. I leaned over the bar, smiling sweetly at the guys on either side of me unassumingly, “Excuse me?” I beseeched the bartender, putting three fingers in the air as he came over, “Three greygoose vodka tonics, please.”
“Make them doubles!” Amber yelled over my shoulder, he nodded and went off.
“So you were serious, then.” She nodded with a light laugh, “Well, then I guess I know how tonight’s going to go.”
I handed off the drinks and took a sip, wrinkling up my nose, “Shit. When in Rome?” I laughed looking up, and there he was. I felt myself catch my breath, putting my hand to my stomach as I took another sip of my drink. It’s difficult to miss Evan, not to sound cliche, but he was like a Greek god walking amongst us; he was tall, blond, with gripping blue eyes and an honest smile. He was the hottest guy I’d ever seen and it made it impossible to keep my heart from skipping a beat, thus I hated him for it.
Acting casual wasn’t going to be possible, Amber had already squeezed my hand, “Evan’s over there. Um, he’s gorgeous--and he’s staring at you.” I looked up and sure enough, I caught his glance and offered a wave and a smile.
Sara nudged me forward, “Go talk to him. He’s coming this way.” I sighed, butterflies flittering in my stomach. Yes, I could handle this, I could be calm, cool, and collected...I could already feel the chemistry flickering between us. He gave me a hug, I could smell a hint of his cologne and breathed it in.
“Hi! Good to see you!” I smiled easily, loving the feeling of his hand lingering on my waist.
“Good to see you too, it’s been awhile. How are you?” His eyes were captivating.. Ocean..blue. I couldn’t think, damn him and his beautiful eyes.
“I’m good, here with Amber and Sara, actually. You remember them right?”
He knew them both, we had gone out with them together several times. When we were, whatever we were. The memories started pouring over me. I wanted them to stop.
“Of course, where are they?” I pointed to the two of them by the bar, who returned his wave.
“I’ll come meet you in just a sec” he started to turn, but just before, he pulled my waist in slowly, “by the way, you look amazing.” I walked away, feeling the heat rise to my cheeks. Why did he have this affect on me? He was the one guy who could turn me into an awkward blob of jello.
“Well looky looky here....” Sara teased, returning my drink to my greedy fingers.
“Ugh, I hate him. It’s nothing. He’s not interested, more importantly--I’m not interested. Don’t get excited.”
“That didn’t look like not interested. You know you guys have sparks, the whole room can tell you have sparks.” Amber laughed, eyeing the possibilities around her.
“You forget, Evan didn’t want anything, I’m with Jason now. You remember Jason, my loving boyfriend?” I said, reminding myself of the mixed signals and games we played. Why couldn’t I have just been straight with him?
“No, you were just dating other people at the same time. What did you expect the guy to do?” Sara corrected, already ordering our next round.
“God, don’t remind me. I was still getting over amazing sex guy, we’re not speaking anymore, and that guy with the crazy ex-girlfriend, wouldn’t talk to him if my life depended on it. What was I thinking?” I took another large sip, closing my eyes at the memories, “Okay, so I was kinda guilty too. But, whatever,” I retorted dismissively, “he acted like an asshole.”
“Oh please, I know it’s not like he’s innocent, but Delaney, you forget you’re pretty damn intimidating. I don’t remember the last time you had less than five guys tripping over you. Look around you, guys are practically drooling.”
“Yeah yeah, and he’s pretty damn intimidating.”
“Emphasis on the pretty.” Amber added, nudging my side knowingly.
“So, for tonight, forget about Jason. You and Jason don’t spark like that.” Sara reiterated, I sighed, letting her comments roll off my back for now.
I sighed, eyeing them both, “It seems like we are all trying to do a lot of forgetting. I hate men, can we just forget men?”
Sara smirked, “We can forget Mr. Rogers,” her eyebrows raised suggestively.
“You know Sara, Jason has been nothing but good to me.”
“Yeah, nothing but. I’ve seen you in love. You’re in content.” She exchanged glasses with me and I took a sip, sitting on the stool. As much as I hated to admit it, she was right. Jason was perfect--perfect and predictable. Our life had become so routine that we were barely sleeping together anymore. The biggest thing we fought about was who was going to return the blockbuster movies. We went straight passed dating to married, and I missed the romance, the chase, I missed the intimacy.


Evan and a few of his friends who were mutual acquaintances started coming over to where we sat. I smiled, biting my lip, tilting my head to the side as I watched him come over--and I knew what was eating away at me, unfinished business. I never knew what Evan wanted, and I never really knew what I wanted. I was never in a place to be genuinely available--but yet I would get frustrated that he wasn’t putting himself on the table. Hypocrite.
In my defense--isn’t it the guy’s job to sweep you off your feet? Come riding up on a white horse in shining armor and whisper in your ear, “You're the one.” I had chalked everything up with Evan to a sad case of he’s just not that into you. It bruised my ego so much that I decidedly left his intermittent phone calls unreturned. Now here we are, three months later, and apparently I’m still reeling.
Sparks, mixed signals, games..it all added up to well, nothing.
His friends sat down, engaging us in catch-up conversation. They were flashier than Evan, they seemed more like party boys, consenting bachelors. As handsome as Evan was, that’s what I loved, he seemed different.
On queue, Jeremiah leaned over and draped his arm across my shoulders, “So Delaney, did you hear that I helped produce that new album?” he smiled and began name-dropping all his latest artist remixes.
“Wow, that’s amazing! I’ll definitely have to pick it up. Are you still dating...?” Her name disappeared from my mind, all I could see was her barely there dress and cigarette.
“Sasha? No, no. That ended awhile ago. I’m going to stay single for a while, I’m on the party scene too much to really settle down now anyway. You know, with the producing and all.” He added, his eyes grazing over the crowd, “We lost Evan.” He turned around, spying Evan trapped between two less than dazzling girls.
“Why don’t you go save him?” Jeremiah laughed, pointing to Evan as he looked politely interested in the conversation, the girls continuing to try to force a connection.
“Oh no, I don’t want to interrupt.” I looked over to Amber and Sara to see if they could hear what was going on; they were lost in flirtation.
“I think he would appreciate it if you saved him, actually.” He insisted, and I turned to look over at Evan.
I would if I was his girlfriend, the girl he was dating, if I was anyone to him.
“He’s a big boy, I’m sure he can take care of himself,” I said matter of factly. I meant it. I opted out of the faux damsel in distress bit and joined in on the conversation about the new pizzeria on 4th.
A few drinks later, we were all laughing and talking as if no time had passed at all. Sara had managed to exchange numbers and innuendo with Jeremiah, and Amber was able to put off thoughts of Kyle for the time being.
Evan brushed my arm, “Thanks for nothing,” he murmured as he pulled up a chair next to me.
“Come again?” I smiled, handing the beer from Jeremiah to Evan.
“I couldn’t get those girls to go away, that’s when you’re supposed to rescue me.”
That sentence reiterated that the idea of a knight in shining armor is officially dead. Apparently we are the ones who are supposed to do the chivalrous act and save our damsels in distress. If my grandmother could see me now.
I smiled, looking down, “Eh, I think you can handle yourself. So, what have you been up to? Anything new?”
“No, not really. I’m trying to up my cardio. Didn’t you say you had done that 10 mile hike on Mt. Pinnacle?”
“Oh yeah, it’s amazing. Definitely worth the trip. Have you been yet?”
“Don’t laugh, but I actually went with my Mom for mother’s day. Thought it would be something fun to do. I also managed a pretty severe sunburn.”
“Aw.!” I put my hand to my heart, “That’s sweet. Most guys would throw themselves off the mountain before doing it with dear old mom. You definitely earned some points with that one.”
“Did I? Hm. So what about you? Are you still obsessed with that sweaty yoga?”
“Ah, you mean Bikram? Not so much. I decided why pay $50 dollars a session when I can just stand outside and do it myself. Besides, the minute the instructor started dictating when I could and couldn’t drink water--I knew it wasn’t the best idea.” I laughed, thinking of Amber’s pale face as she gasped for water, laying on her yoga mat.
“Yeah, we were supposed to take a class together.” He said, taking a sip of his beer.
“Hey, do you want another drink?” he asked, breaking the thoughtful silence. “Absolutely.” I agreed, standing up and moving away from the table. Happy for the time alone. I watched him walking in front of me, he took my hand lightly, guiding me through the dancing crowd. His hand was holding my hand, and we hadn’t talked in a couple months. What did it all mean? Or, was I being a typical girl and reading too much into things? It occurred to me at that moment, probably from the vodka, that I was tired of being a typical girl--so we hadn’t been able to communicate before, I hadn’t been able to ask what his intentions were, maybe now was the time to ask. Liquid courage was on my side.
It was now or never. The kind of word vomit you just can’t control when you’re drinking, “So it’s been awhile, I’m not even sure why we stopped talking?” I asked, watching his expression carefully.
“Yeah, I don’t know either, I think you ditched me” He moved towards the bar, smirking over his shoulder, that didn’t answer my question, We moved into the only empty spot, yelling over the club music. There we were-- wedged together.
“What’s on your mind?” He asked, and it made me realize I had know idea where I was going with this. I had been impulsive, uncalculated. I stared into his eyes, looked away briefly and before I knew it, the question tumbled out of mouth, “What happened between us?” It was loaded. Too loaded for a club maybe, too loaded to ask him. I regretted it.
“In what sense?” he replied. Evasive, totally evasive. I looked up, taking a breath, “I mean, was it just..was it just, a hookup?” The words remained hanging in the air. I didn’t know why I cared, I was dating someone else, someone who wanted me. With or without the sexual frustration you could cut with a knife.
“Nevermind, sorry, that was random. I don’t know why I asked.” I said, trying to smooth over the question.
“No.” His answer caught me offguard,
“No? What?” I said, confused.
“No, it wasn’t just a hook up.”
I wanted him to divulge everything. I couldn’t tell you why I needed to know, but I did. Maybe it was closure, maybe it was to mend my ego.
“Well, then? I mean because we were friends..and it just..” I trailed off. Not knowing the words to describe the roller coaster that was, us.
“Does this describe how I feel about you?” And before I knew what was happening, the room stopped moving and his lips were on mine. It was the simplest, sweetest, most complicated kiss of my life. As he pulled away, the noise refilled the room and my heart pounded in my ears. I shook my head, a smile moving across my lips, “Did that answer your question?” without knowing what to say, I just nodded. Sparks.


Chapter 4

I left the club with a clouded head, heavy heart, and confused look on my face. Part of me wanted to breathe a sigh of relief and the other part went into overdrive. What did that mean? It was possibly one of the most romantic gestures of my life; but at the same time it only caused more questions. Questions I needed to ask him, but never would, and more importantly questions to ask myself. Another man had kissed me, and it wasn’t Jason. I think that constitutes cheating.
I stared out the window of the cab, watching the pavement roll past me--my life felt like a blur.
Amber’s tentative voice interrupted my thoughts, “Dee, are you okay?”
“Define okay.”
“Well--how do you feel?”
“I feel...I feel like I’m totally..totally...stupid. I am a stupid girl. What was I thinking? Why did I even bother seeing him tonight? What’s going to come of this?” I paused and then continued before she could interrupt me, I already knew the answer, “Nothing. Nothing is going to come of this. If Evan wanted me, he could have had me. It shouldn’t be this complicated. Relationships should be simple--you like me, I like you, let’s be together. Not, I like you, you like me, let’s play as many games as we can and put eachother through hell. What’s the point of it all?” I sighed, pressing my cheek against the cold glass of the cab window. The cocktails had caught up with me and I needed to close my eyes to keep from feeling like that cab was spinning.
I touched the silver bracelet Jason had given me for my birthday, he had promised to make this the best year of my life. I felt the tears lining my eyes. I am a stupid girl.
“What if..you weren’t ready before? What if it isn’t for nothing? What if tonight was the grand gesture.”
“Grand gesture?”
“I mean christ, the guy kissed you in a crowded club. That’s something, really something,” she rubbed my arm and then looked at me intently, “Everything happens for a reason.”
“Oh come on, we both know that’s bullshit. That’s something pathetic people tell themselves to ease the pain of their pathetic life,” the words sounded harsh as they left my lips. I know it was negative, but I was feeling negative. The truth was, I didn’t want to go to bed tonight thinking of Evan and that...kiss.
“Please. I just really think....things with Evan could go somewhere. There is a reason you keep coming back into each others lives. Don’t you?”
“Am I just a masochist? Do I just always go for the wrong guy, because I’m afraid to let myself be happy?” I scrunched my nose; thinking about all the complicated, horrible relationships of my past, “I mean..Jason loves me. Jason would do anything for me. What is wrong with me that I’m not willing to push some..guy..some guy who left me hanging months ago, away from me in a club?”
“Evan is not just some guy, Dee. You have history.”
“Yeah we have a history dotted with mine fields. Just when I thought we were going to get it together, poof, blown up in smoke,” I felt the cab ease to a stop. The cabbie turned stating “20 even.” I handed him the money deftly, stepping out into the rain. It felt good against my skin, cleansing. Maybe it would wash away the memory, the guilt.
“Hey! Lady!” The cabbie yelled out his window, I turned thinking I must have left something.
“Yeah?”
“The kiss was a way of avoiding a question he didn’t want to answer. Just from a guys perspective,” with that he drove off. I watched the taillights disappear into the morning darkness, turning to Amber with a look of disbelief.
“Fuck. Fuck...He’s right isn’t he?”
She paused, caught on her own words, “No...No. I’m sure that wasn’t it. He drives a dirty cab, don’t listen to him.”
I put my hand to my lips, pausing thoughtfully. The night had made things so much more complicated. As I crawled into bed, smelling Jason on the sheets, I knew I wouldn’t be sleeping tonight. Thoughts and memories replayed in my head behind my closed eyes. Evan and I laughing in bed at 3 a.m. talking about our favorite comedies, our ideal jobs, our futures. I remember feeling like I had been slapped when I saw him with another girl, I remember seeing him for the first time and knowing I had to have him, I remember passionate hours in bed, I remember him..and I remember butterflies.

With so much confusion about the male species, I knew in order to get the answers I was searching for I had to go directly to the source. James Shaw. James was what you might call my rentable boyfriend. He was the person I could go to movies with, have the adventures and deep talks with, minus the drama that comes with real dating.
Have you ever walked into a restaurant and there is one guy that every woman can’t help but notice? James had that appeal and the confidence to match. Although somehow he and I had become the best of friends, I was still fully aware of the fact that hundreds of women were dying to trade places with me. I knew that if I wanted the truth about a man’s hidden agenda, James would tell it to me like it was. I sat in my car with the radio going for about five minutes. Leaning back into the cool leather, I stared at the clock--Jason would be landing in four hours. My blue eyes stared back at me in the rear view mirror, I was transparent and I had a guilty conscience. The passenger seat would soon be occupied and the backseat full of baggage. I groaned, pushing my sunglasses back over my eyes--it was now or never. I got out of the car and felt the heat rising off the pavement, it was the dead of summer and most people had the right idea to stay indoors, protect themselves from getting burnt.
I slid into the booth at Red Robin, folded my hands on the table and immediately started confessing like a kid in trouble, “I let another man kiss me, and it wasn’t my boyfriend. What does that mean?” I bit my lip and braced myself for the truth.
“You’re horny?” was all he said before looking at the menu. It was simple and not at all what I had expected to hear.
“What do you mean, ‘I’m horny.’ That’s...” I sucked in an exasperated breath and rolled my eyes at him, “That’s just, just..not helpful. What a lame answer. Here I came thinking that you would tell me what was really going on.” So much for a rentable Buddha.
“Okay then, so he’s horny.”
He shrugged nonchalantly, sitting comfortably with his arm draped over the back of the booth. Calm, cool, indifferent. Now I was really reeling. What a boy thing to do, over simplify everything, “You know James, not everything is about s-e-x,” I hissed as the waitress hurried over. I studied his response, no facial twitch, no sign that what I said had struck him as rational.
His deep brown eyes grazed over the empty restaurant and then looked up to the approaching waitress indifferently, “No. I hate to be the one to tell you this, when it comes to guys--yes. Yes, it is just about sex. You’re hot, he was horny and he thought he could get laid.” He proceeded to order a cheeseburger, completely oblivious to the fact that the waitress was now drooling over him.
“How would you like your burger?” She looked up at him from her notepad, smiling flirtatiously.
“Medium...Medium-well. With a side of french fries, please.”
“Absolutely. I’ll put medium-well, that’s how I like mine too.” She cooed, closing her book and walking back towards the kitchen. I raised both my hands in disbelief, watching her giggle to her friends as she moved to the computer. I couldn’t believe it, she actually forgot I was even sitting there. What if I had been his girlfriend?
“Excuse me, miss? Excuse me?!” I called after her, raising my normally quiet voice. She giggled, jogging back over, “Oh my bad, so sorry,” she replied more to James than to me.
“I’d like the chef salad with an extra side of bleu cheese dressing.”
“Low fat bleu cheese?” She asked. I felt like I had suddenly entered into an old-fashioned duel with a ditzy high school waitress. Not only was she ignoring the fact that I could possibly be James’ girlfriend, but now she was making me look like some kind of unhealthy, calorie loving, wallflower. Not happening. No, absolutely not, I refuse to let some valley talking bimbo make me feel inferior. I had a great figure and I didn’t need to order low fat dressing that tasted like crap to keep it.
“No, your low-fat dressing tastes asinine,” I let the words drip from my tongue like acid, “but thanks.” I smiled sweetly and then shoved the menu at her.
If there is one thing that drives me up the wall about being a girl, it’s other girls. Particularly girls that feel the need to put you down and make you look bad, usually in front of men. Maybe I was overreacting and imagining the whole thing in my mind. Things had been stressful and I was even fed up with dealing with myself and my self-inflicted emotional roller coaster. Just before I could start to feel bad about my juvenile behavior, she turned over her shoulder and winked at James. Seriously? The bitch had balls.
“Do you think she could be anymore obvious?” I snapped, he smiled innocently and I continued back to my order of business, “but James, I’m not the type of girl a guy would just try and sleep with. I’m not like that.” It felt like a personal attack that he had limited my encounter with Evan to such a physical thing--as if all there was between us was nothing more than a cheap hook-up.
“Call it what you want. You were drinking, things happen. Just let it go.” Now his attitude was infuriating me.
“So you’re saying that when a girl is at a club, that’s like having a stamp on her head that she’s easy? I don’t dress like a slut, I don’t act like a slut, so why would you lump me together with the sluts?” I could picture in my head those women, the Desperadas.
Beware of the Desperadas-- the women who drink a little too much to compensate for their bad behavior--as if being drunk was the free ticket to hang all over every cute guy you meet, or after a few drinks..every not so cute guy you meet. But, more importantly, why was he talking about relationships as if they were so black and white? And why would he just assume Evan wanted nothing with me? Since when was it all or nothing? Where was the middle ground, the gray area? I depended on the gray area.
“Well, what do you want me to say? If he was interested, you would be dating. It’s all the same at the bars, just trying to get ass.”
“I just thought..” I felt myself trailing off, lost in my own thoughts. Had I been thinking so much this whole time that I hadn’t seen what was right in front of me? The obvious, cold hard truth, “I don’t know what I thought.” His words stung. I felt like an idiot.
James was so matter of fact about it, as if it was completely obvious. Was that all Evan ever wanted? Had I been thinking about ending my relationship with Jason over some guy that had just wanted to get into my pants? The questions began and I just couldn’t find the off button.
It is true, what James was saying, I believe in the fact that men still have some aspect of Alpha male or cave man in them: Boy sees girl, boy wants girl, boy gets girl. It was very simple and it seemed painfully true.
I paused, pulling my wounded ego together, “I guess I see your point. I mean the book He’s Just Not That Into You, spelled it out for women. Brutal honesty. I guess, it just..mm I don’t know,” for the first time in 24 hours I didn’t want to think.
“Anyway, what’s been going on with you?” Changing the subject was the only thing I could do to salvage my confidence and get the image of a desperate woman dropping a blow dryer into a bathtub out of my mind. Maybe we were all desperadas, depending on what man you asked over lunch.
“Not much, same old, same old. I’m still seeing that girl.” He said it as if I should know exactly who he was talking about. We had been friends for over a year and this was the first reference to that girl.
“Excuse me, James, who is ‘that girl’ that you are still seeing? When did this happen?”
“A few months now, maybe 3? I’m not sure where it’s going. She gets uncomfortable when I bring it up” his voice attempted to camouflage the pink elephant in the room.
“What do you mean? She doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you?” Immediately I began picturing some dime piece knock out that had men eating out of the palm of her hand. It never occurred to me that someone could have the upper hand in a relationship with James. He was the guy: the guy that guys wanted to be and girls wanted to be with. He was James and he was great.
“She says she doesn’t want to put a title on it, you know how it is,” he sighed lightly rubbing his forehead as the waitress placed the food down on the table, never taking her eyes off his mouth.
This was getting a little ridiculous. James had women falling all over themselves and he was all about a girl who didn’t want to be his anything. I could tell he was frustrated, definitely more apathetic than usual. Maybe he was being so dismissive of what happened at the club with me because he was being dismissed in his own love life.
There must be something in the water. It seemed all around me, people were all about people who didn’t want to give them the time of day.
“So basically.. she’s milking the cow for free,” I retorted, it felt good to say something critically back to him. I smiled and patted his arm, “Never thought I would live to see the day.”
He laughed, recoiling it as if I had burned him, “Hey hey, don’t jump to conclusions. I never said I wanted to be in a relationship, I have no idea where I’m going to be in a year. I agree with her, it’s just not a good time to be putting a lot of time into a relationship that may not have time.”
“Then why are we talking about her?” I raised my eyebrows suspiciously, he may be able to fool his guy friends with the nonchalant comments, but I saw what was really going on. He had been dating a girl for a few months and she was wearing the pants.
He shook his head and shrugged, helpless.
“It just seems to me, that it shouldn’t matter if you don’t know where you are going to be in a few months..I mean if you meet a girl who really peaks your interest--isn’t it worth seeing where it goes before you determine it can’t go anywhere?”
“Nah. I mean, I don’t know. I guess if I was going to consider being in a relationship with anyone-it would be her. But I’m not going to bank on a future with someone when I’m not even sure what my own future is.”
His rationalization was legitimate, but it got me thinking about the beginning of relationships. We all have expectations but no guarantee, how would we ever start a relationship if we knew it was going to end?
“Well, no relationship has a guarantee. I can’t go out with a guy and ask ‘so are you going to be a dick in about 2 months?’ or ‘in 3 months are you going to get bored and start checking out other women in front of me?’ That’s the thing about relationships, it’s kind of like jumping off the deep end and all the while, just hoping the water won’t be freezing.”
I paused thoughtfully and then continued, stealing one of his french fries, “But I mean if it is freezing or you manage to break a leg upon contact, I’ll be here to help pull you out and hand you a towel. Or, take you to the hospital, which I guess in this metaphor would be some kind of strip club to take your mind off things.”
He laughed easily, “You lost me, are you saying she’s going to break my heart?”
“No, nevermind. It was just a metaphor I took too far,” I managed to reply as I was mid-swallow on a handful of ketchup covered french fries.
He laughed putting on a dramatically confused face, “Come again? Eat much?”
“Yeah, you’re hilarious. What I’m trying to say is, I just think it sounds shady that she isn’t willing to give you the commitment but has no problem taking all the benefits.”
He paused thoughtfully, “I guess. I guess for right now, it’s like she said last night, being happy together should be enough. Right?”
I nodded, “Yeah, sure. But it’s just weird because instead of playing house, your playing relationship.”
It made me feel slightly better in some sense that a handsome catch like James could have problems finding someone. Perhaps, it’s not that there is some kind of defect with single people or people who have problematic relationships: but more so, that we are all just trying to find the right someone to bank on a future with.
I looked over at James and smirked as he told me an embarrassing story about one of his co-workers, offering me another french fry. I realized as I ate it that in spite of all the confusion--in this moment I was happy.
I got back in my car and started heading home, I only had about a two hours before I had to go to the airport. I started envisioning what I wanted my own future to look like. As much as I enjoyed the spontaneity of my single life, I equally enjoyed the security that came with the familiar nook of Jason’s neck. When I think about Evan, my heart skips a beat in my chest. So what’s better--the spontaneity of the unknown, or the comfort of the familiar? Is it possible to have both? Something told me as I parked in the garage and looked at Jason’s sports equipment on the workbench that I couldn’t have my cake and eat it too. I needed to make a choice and when it came down to it--I wanted to be with someone who loved me, for me. Maybe James had a point, maybe instead of worrying and over analyzing about what that kiss meant--I should just be happy in the moment with Jason and forget all about Evan and..sparks. Granted, I would love to have a little bird sit down on my shoulder and tell me everything Evan was feeling--hypothetically, would there ever even be a future with Evan? Evan and I had sparks, but did he have a nook for me?


Chapter 5
“There is a more important question to be asking yourself. Why are you spending so much time thinking about another guy, that isn’t your boyfriend? Listen to yourself. I haven’t heard Jason mentioned much, Dump him,” Jessica’s voice came in loud and clear in spite of all the background noise over the phone.
Jessica is my voice of reason, Jessica was also the first one from my group of friends to move away. After college, she had quickly gotten a job that moved her to Los Angeles. We all supported her and her career, but we selfishly missed her and baited her to come for a weekend visit whenever she got the chance.
I paused, sinking further into the bath tub, swirling the bubbles around with my finger, “Dump him? I know there are problems. If there weren’t problems I wouldn’t even be noticing other men in the room. But, is the problem between us or is it just me?” I sighed, staring up at all the cracks in my ceiling.
“Don’t you think it’s all just moving a little too fast?” She inquired. Jessica was not a relationship person, at all. In fact, unlike most women, Jessica preferred the casual hook-up to a serious relationship, “I mean it’s just so much emotional hooplah already, you sound exhausted, and I’m exhausted just listening to you.”
Truth be told, Jason was Prince Charming. He was successful, smart, thoughtful, the list could go on and on. He just wasn’t sexy, the excitement was lacking on the weekends and in the bedroom.
In perfect timing, her question interrupted by bubble-bursting, “So when was the last time you had sex?”
“Mm..sex or good sex?”
“Sex should always be good.”
“Not when you have to get up early in the morning.”
“Dump him.”
“Oh come on. All couples go through a rut. It’s not realistic to be in a serious relationship with someone and not have the sex dwindle a little bit. Life happens.”
“Married couples! For couples who have been married for 10 years. Who have already had 10 years of mind-blowing, amazing, sex. They are entitled to a rut. Not a couple who has only been dating for a few months. Snap out of it, you sound like some kind of Park Avenue spouse who has popped out 4 children. Hello, who are you and what have you done with my hot friend Delaney?”
I sighed again, closing my eyes. I could not remember the last time I had felt incredibly sexy. I have always had this fantasy of a man walking through the front door, pushing me up against the wall and ripping off my clothes: Buttons flying, heavy breathing, cantwaittogettothebedroom amazing sex.
“Unrealistic. I think we’ve just seen too many movies which in turn lead to Hollywood inspired fantasies of what life is like. What relationships are like. I’m not Hollywood and I’m not Park Avenue. I’m..well i’m totally lost.”
“You’re not lost, you’re lacking lust.”
“True. Painfully true. So what do I do?”
“Do what any self-respecting girl does. Knock a couple cocktails back, put on your sexiest underwear and pounce him when he gets home. Show him your Hollywood fantasy.”
“With Jason? I just can’t imagine him being passionate.”
The words hung in the air, like the bubbles I wanted to pop them. Instead, I finished shaving my legs, watching the foam slide off the razor. Then, it hit me, that not only was my relationship in a rut--so was I.
It just wasn’t going to work, “This is so bad isn’t it?”
As my bestfriend for over 10 years, I couldn’t believe she could stand me. I had never been a girl who would settle for someone while I waited for the one. That is how people got hurt. As the truth washed over me, I still knew I wasn’t ready to give up on my someone when I had no one, “Black bra and panties, or red?”

Chapter 6
After wedging my car in between two oversized Cadillac escalades, which I could only assume were filled with soccer bags, cheerleading pom poms, and children’s DVDs, I turned off the engine and the let the Kings of Leon keep playing. As I angled the rear view mirror lower, adjusting my cleavage in my black push-up bra, I started feeling nervous. After this weekend, would it be possible for things to go back to normal between us? I had never been a good liar, but is an omission really a betrayal?
I pulled the dress straps over the black, I had decided that red was too feisty and reminded me too much of the Scarlet A on my chest, literally, whereas black kept it simple and sexy. I wore my favorite black summer dress, clinging to my body subtly without overdoing it.
A cool blast of air conditioning greeted me as I went through the automatic doors and over to wait for the elevator. A happy couple stepped out, barely mid-make out session before the doors opened intrusively. They giggled passed as he tugged her forward into a playful hug. Disgusting. In truth, it made my heart ache a little. Would Jason and I ever be that couple; blissfully, obnoxiously, PDA happy?
I stared at my reflection in the steel doors, smoothing my hair and applying his favorite vanilla lipgloss. I had to admit, losing the sweats was a good decision--yo could actually see my figure. Maybe, with a little incentive, Jason could lust after me? Although Jason wasn’t the type of guy to give compliments, I knew that when he did, they were sincere. Maybe, love and lust can’t happen at the same time, maybe it’s either or. I guess, being with someone who loved you was better than being with someone who was lusting after you.
Ex-dates in the past had made that mistake, the over-complimenting faux pax. Jeff, for example, a handsome guy from a loaded Italian family--he had everything going for him. That is, until I answered the door and all he could say was, “Wow, Delaney James, you look just amazing. Really stunning.”
Compliments are great, in moderation, after awhile it becomes overkill and superficial. He continued on, unabashedly admiring my ass in my jeans, “Are those True Religions? Or Rock N’ Republics?” My jaw almost hit the floor as I sputtered the response, wondering how his metrosexualness had gone undetected. Nothing worse than getting a shopping partner when you wanted a real man to get down and dirty with.
I looked up at the screen with the departures and arrivals. I squinted, trying to differentiate all the flights coming in from New York. I moved to outside the security entrance, a shiver coming over me as I thought about the stress of the security check point. I glared at the man staring placidly at the x-ray scene, just waiting to ruin someone’s day by taking their liquid necessity after they traversed the rat-race red ropes.
An older man smiled up at me, his plaid pants and worn v-neck sweater, reminding me of my pop-pop. I smiled back, “Who are you waiting for?”
He laughed sheepishly, tapping his cane, “Nobody special. What about you?”
I cocked my head to the side, “Nobody special? Well, I’m actually just picking up my boyfriend.”
His snicker caught me off guard, “Not one of those lesbians? Seems like all you young people are lesbians or gays.”
My eyes widened briefly, so much for cute old man, “No..no not one of those.” With that, I politely turned my back and moved over to the airport Starbucks nestled between a newsstand and the touristy desert store. My savior, lit up in green lights, from any further unwarranted conversations.
I picked up a black coffee for myself and a Carmel macchiato for Jason, that was the first drink he ordered after we met. We had walked together from the park and tied Bachi beneath his seat and sat outside, talking about our lives, favorite movies, politics, religion, Bachi--it was the first real conversation I had had in a long time. That’s what I loved about Jason--his maturity, his direct approach to life, he was safe. I chewed on the tip of my nail, thinking about what a fool I had been to risk losing him.
I smiled to myself contentedly, carrying the drinks over to the coffee condiment stand, putting one bag of Splenda in his and two in mine along with some vanilla powder. So maybe Jason and I don’t have fireworks per se, but we respect each other. We were like those two ships, but instead of passing in the night, we were parallel. I pulled out my phone to check the time, his flight should have landed by now. Just as I was dropping it back into the abyss, the phone vibrated from a text-- Evan.
When am I going to see you again?
Shit. Shit, shit, shit. Just as I was going to press delete, my obnoxious “Sexy Back” ringtone started filling the area around me. I knew there was a reason my phone was perpetually on silent, all my ringtones were obnoxious and picked on impulse. My fingers punched the keys blindly trying to answer the call and end the humiliation, the cup slipped and the black coffee spilled onto my arm as I tried to save it from falling, then as my body jolted from the flesh searing heat--the phone dropped out from my pinky.
The phone spun around on the brown tile, I could feel daggers being thrown in my back as all the business men already too hopped on caffeine grew more and more agitated, muttering “Turn it off, God, Turn it off already.”
I crumbled down to the floor in an awkward squat, “I’m sorry! Sorry!” I hissed, trying to make sure my dress kept all things hidden. The last thing I needed was an accidental peep show.
I finally managed to pick up the phone, “Hello?”
“Dee? Where are you at? I’m standing outside security.”
“Oh babe, I’m at the Starbucks, be there in a second.”
“No worries, I see you now.”
Great, here I was attempting to make a glamorous appearance and instead I was squatting like a dog, just perfect. I threw the phone into my bag, thinking how it would have felt better just to throw it into the coffee, against the wall, or even at one of the assholes who didn’t bother to help me. I scooped up the coffees and turned to see Jason.
He looked so official and handsome in his khakis and white button up shirt. He actually looked older than 27, he looked tired and haggard. He worked too hard, and it was showing.
“Hi beautiful, I missed you.”
His arms felt so secure around me. Jason would lose sleep before missing a work out, and his hard chest showed it. He gave me a soft kiss on my neck and a loving pat on my butt.
“Missed you too stranger,” I gave him a quick kiss on the lips, extending the Carmel macchiato proudly. He stared at the cup, muttering a confused thanks.
“Remember, from our first coffee date?”
“Yeah, remember how much indigestion I got from drinking it? Do you realize how bad coffee is on your body?” He scoffed, chucking it into the garbage can as we walked towards the elevators.
“Oh, well I would have drank it, you didn’t have to throw it away.”
“ The last thing you need is to become one of those people addicted to caffeine. Don’t be so simple,” he laughed, squeezing my hand tenderly, “So, how was your weekend?”
I stared up at the top of the doors, watching the elevator come back down. We definitely weren’t ever going to be the couple that had stepped out earlier. I sighed, “Pretty uneventful, just went out with Sara and Amber.”
“How trashed did they get?”
“What do you mean?”
“They are pretty much alcoholics, really, you should try and find some classier women to spend time with. Think about how that makes you look.” He sighed, staring down at his Rolex impatiently. “Jesus, how long does it take the elevator?”
I was still processing what he had said about Amber and Sara. He had come out with us when we first started dating, and never again. Now I guess it was making sense, he thought that anyone who had a few drinks at a bar was a raging alcoholic. My friends could be rowdy but never sloppy, what’s so bad about having a good time? I found myself saying it aloud.
“There is a difference between having a good time and being irresponsible. Come on, Delaney, you aren’t in college anymore. Time to act like adults, settle down.”
The elevator doors opened and we stepped in, “What floor?”
I was about to call him Mr. Rogers, because I felt like he was preaching--him and the crazy old man in plaid, but instead I said “Oh shoot, um..” I dug through my purse searching for the piece of paper, “I think 5...um I’m not really sure. Just one second.”
“Check your inside pocket.”
Sure enough, the little paper was there, 3D.
“Level 3, row D.”
“You should really organize that thing.”
“Do you have anymore snide remarks to make? I’m sorry my friends and my purse aren’t good enough for you. But what do I know, I’m just a blonde.” I snapped sarcastically, rolling my eyes, leaning back into the cold metal wall. The cool silver felt good on my back, I could feel the tension returning to my shoulders. As generous and kind-hearted as Jason was, he was also incredibly judgmental and serious. I realized now why I hadn’t gone out in so long, it wasn’t worth the third degree questioning I would receive from Jason when I got home.
He pulled me to him, putting his arm around my neck, it just felt heavy instead of comfortable, “Don’t be silly, I’m sorry, it’s just how I feel.” He kissed my forehead, “I’m just tired from my flight, that’s all.”
I leaned into him, giving in was easier than fighting, “So you didn’t want to go get dinner then?”
He sighed, “Not really, I’d rather just chill out on the couch, open up a beer, and watch the game. It was a pretty crazy couple of days.”
“Oh, well, is there room for one more on the couch?”
“Absolutely, but you’ve got to give me a neck massage in exchange for the seat.”
He reached and took the keys from my hand, always preferring to drive. He said my driving made him nervous, something about accelerating into turns instead of decelerating. All I knew was that I had a license and zero accidents, that was good enough for me.
I retreated into the passenger seat of my own car, turning the radio down while watching him adjust the seat.
“So tell me about New York.”
“Pretty good, it’s nice to be back though, I really missed you.” He paused, looking at me pensively, “I have some big news, I was going to tell you over dinner but since that’s not happening, I guess now is as good a time as any.”
My stomach turned, I looked out the window watching a plane take off before turning back to stare at the hard outline of his face. His jaw clenched and his eyes danced in excitement, “I got a promotion. A big promotion,” he tapped the steering wheel for emphasis.
“Really?! That’s fantastic, congratulations baby. You deserve it.” I leaned over the center console to give him a kiss on his cheek.
“Good, I’m glad you feel that way. The only thing is that I’m going to have to be in New York for the next few months. You know, just to help the new branch take off.”
My stomach turned again, “A few months? Wait, so you’re moving back to New York?”
“Well, for now. But you know, eventually I always wanted to raise a family back East. It’s where I grew up and it’s my home. Here is just, well just for now. So it might be a good time to plant some roots. What do you think?”
Plant some roots? Raise a family? My heart raced, I looked over at him and I abruptly felt like I was driving with Miss Daisy. Suddenly, that image of the crazy cat lady popped into my head. Jason was amazing, successful, and family oriented. Isn’t that supposed to be the ideal man for a girl like me? Most women are just trying to find a guy that will actually take them on a date, let alone settle down with them. I wished I could call Sara or Amber. Instead, I settled for sending them telepathic S.O.S’s from the passenger seat,
“Well, you know, I’ve never even been to the East coast, so I can’t say I agree or disagree. But this is a big change, I’m not really sure I understand.”
“Dee, I know we’ve only been dating for a few months, but don’t you think this presents an opportunity to start our life properly?”
“Start..our..life?”
I hadn’t even officially started my own life.
“Well my parents got married after only dating for one month, and she didn’t even speak English. When it’s right, it’s right.”
Jason’s parents had a unique story, his Dad was on vacation in Mexico when he saw his mom walking the beach with her younger brother. He said that the minute she came into his line of vision he knew he had to know her, talk to her. So his college buddy, who luckily spoke fluent Spanish, translated for them all night in a bar along the beach in Mazatlan. After he got back, he started taking Spanish classes-went back and asked for her hand in marriage. Her parents were resistant at first, but apparently, after he came back three times they saw how much they loved each other. Contrary to my own personal experiences, that love, the big love, is out there. I just wasn’t sure if it was in the car, with us. My heart began to race, so loud I could hear it thunking in my head.
“I just, I don’t know, this is a heavy conversation. This is a, life changing conversation..I’m not sure I’m ready for life changing..conversations..now.”
“What do you want your life to be? The same thing forever? Alone?”
I started to panic. He was calling into question all my relationship issues, my baggage. Suddenly, it wasn’t Jason’s baggage filling up the backseat, it was mine. I looked at my hands, noting the one chip in the nailpolish where I had been chewing my nails waiting for him at the airport. I was always nervous, on edge, around him. Does nervousness translate to butterflies? I gulped. I had never envisioned myself actually getting married. I tried hard several times, but I just couldn’t picture it. It scared me. Not marriage per se, but that I couldn’t fathom getting married. Granted, my age could be an excuse, people claim ‘they just aren’t ready’ or ‘they are just too young’ but I believe even those people have fantasies of walking down the aisle, locking eyes with their beloved, their chosen one. But, with the rates of divorce as high as they were--did such a love really exist anymore? Jason was offering me security. Jason was offering me a life shared, he was offering me himself. Why couldn’t I do it?
“No, of course not. I hate even being alone for the weekend. It’s just, are we your parents--is this Mazatlan?” I shifted in my seat, hearing the leather squeak, I had started sweating from nerves without realizing it. I readjusted myself uncomfortably, impatiently.
“Mazatlan?”
“Mazatlan, you know--your Dad learned another language to be with your Mom.”
“Oh right, right. Well no, I think this is two adults talking about their options. An opportunity has presented itself, and I’m willing to start taking steps toward our future.”
“But, I mean--if we were even going to really talk about this-I’ve never even been to the East coast. I’ve lived here my entire life. Here, here is my home.”
“Why are you getting so intense? It’s just a conversation, I’m not asking you to move to a foreign country. The East coast is just a few hours away by plane. They speak English too.” He smirked, brushing my arm affectionately in an attempt to calm my nerves. He picked up my limp hand from the center console, stroking my ring finger. I closed my eyes tightly, it was the first time in my life I had wished I had an amputated hand.
The last minutes of the car ride felt like hours, days. I was overly aware of each breath I took, that saying about taking deep breaths and counting to 10 was officially bullshit. I started picking at the chip in my nailpolish until three of my fingers were nailpolishless, my mind was replaying Jason’s business proposal, I was a promotion bonus. I bet the girl in the elevator wouldn’t get a business proposal, she’d get a romantic proposal somewhere on an isolated beach with candles and tears. I was getting an offer to move to the East coast, which made me want to cry thinking about the accent and subway.
“You’re quiet, are you okay?”
“Mm, I’m fine--but I think that coffee gave me indigestion.”
The lie sounded ridiculous to me, but I knew it would be appeasing to Jason and his health-fanaticism.
He offered a knowing nod, shaking his head, “Remember that next time you want to throw money down the toilet on overpriced coffee that is exploiting a poor family in Colombia. It really pisses me off, their whole bit about bettering the planet, they only use 10% of recycled products,” I sighed, staring at his serious face. It was still handsome, even thought it was twisted with frustration as he ranted, I bit my lip trying to pay attention, “What really gets me going, is the dumbasses who buy their Ethos water. It’s just a water company that they bought--those children will be waiting a long time for that money to get sent their away. God people are just so oblivious to what’s really....”
I zoned out, the other bonus about doing yoga and pilates was that I was perfectly capable of tuning out unwanted noise. I leaned back into the seat, almost wanting to bang my ahead against it until I was unconscious, to stop thinking, to stop hearing my own thoughts for one second. In truth, I just loved that Starbucks was reliable--I knew what I was getting. I knew how amazing that Carmel macchiato would taste. Was I settling, even in my coffee choices?
“If I don’t buy coffee, how is that going to help the exploited farmers?”
“Vegetarians don’t eat meat, but atleast their hands are clean of murder. They can go to sleep at night happy with their life choices. It’s a matter of principle and morals.”
Did I mention Jason was also a vegetarian? We..he ate a lot of tofu. Personally, I am relatively indifferent to meat, so going along with the tofu dinners had been easy at first. After having a weekend away from him and secretly indulging in Taco Bell, he seemed uptight and a little condescending. His convictions about human rights and animal rights had seemed endearing at first, now it just seemed patronizing. I did my part, I would buy the coffee brand that said they gave more money to the actual farmers--I had never meant to starve a family with my coffee purchases, I just liked coffee. I rubbed my temples, the temples of an animal murderer.
“Did you want to go to your place or go to mine? I’m indifferent because I’ll probably crash right after the game. It’s already half time anyway.”
In truth, I just wanted to be alone so I could call the girls. A few hours ago I was talking to James about hook ups and clubbing. Now I was talking about getting married and starting a so-called “real” life, playing grown up. Shouldn’t this be the happiest moment of my life? Baggage, baggage coming out the sunroof. Baggage was suffocating me.
“How about my place? I left Bachi inside, so I’m going to need to let him out.”
“Sounds great, do you want Chinese or pizza?”
Chinese or pizza. That was a more straight forward answer, something I could rely on my gut for. What sounded better? Chow Mein, fried rice, orange peel chicken, sesame chicken or did I want spicy chicken wings, supreme pizza coated in red peppers? Jason had to be completely aloof if he thought I would get indigestion from drinking a mild black coffee, my stomach was the fort knox of spice and caffeine.
“Pizza would hit the spot. Let’s get the loaded pizza with some chicken wings.”
“That’s exactly what I wanted! We’re perfect together.”
I managed a smile, turning back towards the window, watching the city fly by. The best and worst part about summer was how long the days were. It would stay bright until about 8 p.m., the sky a bright orangesicle. Sunset was beautiful, but right now, I just wanted the day to be over. I wanted a night of sleep to ruminate, I wanted to wake up and be clean. Clean of my guilt, clean of my baggage, clean of my past.

Chapter 7
“Fear is the heart of love”

My mind was racing. I was thinking about him. I was thinking about us. I hate saying his name, thinking his name, feeling it. Nick.
Nick and I had been college sweethearts. I had planned our future, the names of our future children, sometimes I would even imagine what they would look like. It’s pretty sick, considering how love phobic I am. But with Nick, I was a different person. Arguably a more naive version of myself. I was goo-goo eyed, mushy gushy, I was head over heels in love. He had burned me, ruined me. Now I began to wonder if I would ever get that optimistic, free-falling, loving part of me back. Was it all just ashes now? Was I damaged beyond repair?
I inched out of the bed, moving slowly not to shake the mattress. The bed felt cold that night, yet, the cool sheets were like a haven from the heat outside. Jason slept on his stomach with his face pressed into the pillow, sometimes I worried he would suffocate. Once I even googled what different sleep positions meant, apparently Jason was very comfortable with himself or something like that. Whereas, I, like most women, slept in the fetal position--fearful of being exposed, vulnerable. Bachi acknowledged my movement with a yawn from the floor, stretching out all fours, before sighing and resting his wet nose back onto his comfy bed. If I wouldn’t have woken Jason up, I would have called Bachi an asshole.
I snuck across the apartment from my bedroom into the kitchen on my tip-toes. I’m not even sure why I was being so quiet. Part of me didn’t want Jason to know I wasn’t sleeping. I didn’t want to deal with the questions of ‘what’s on your mind, tell me all about it.’ The other part of me wanted to divulge everything, all about my past, all about Nick, all about how he would have really liked the old me. I took a bottle of water from the fridge and stepped out onto my balcony. The sky was still bright from the full moon, but I couldn’t see any stars. I set the water on the little wooden table, wrapping my fingers around the rod iron porch. I let my body relax, feeling the warm summer breeze blowing my big sleeping t-shirt.
It sounds strange, but I can feel him. I can feel Nick sometimes, the wounds are still fresh, palpable. It had been a year and a half and I was mending my war wounds.
I lied earlier when I said I had never actually thought about getting married. Of course I thought about graduating college and getting married to Nick. We had been together for four years, it was the natural progression I wanted my life to take. I was sure, I was certain--he was the one for me. It wasn’t a love at first sight like Jason’s parents, but it was an immediate curiosity. Nick was my complimentary other half. I remember sitting on a bench on the mall, having a stressful conversation with the cell phone company, when I saw him skate by. Now that I think about it, it’s completely ironic because he treated his whole life like a free, easy ride. Perhaps that is what killed us, the fact that he was too focused on the moment, thoughtless and impulsive.
We ultimately met through my roommate at his fraternity party. After a couple of cheap beers, I was completely enamored by his casual confidence. He was mellow, laid back and silly. Sometimes we would laugh so much that the next day my stomach would be sore, I hadn’t laughed like that in a long time. I sighed wistfully, resting my head on my chin. The tears welled up in my eyes and looked up, blinking furiously. It rolled down the contours of my face, eventually landing on my lips. Salty. Another one followed.
I pulled my sleeve over my hand and wiped my cheeks, looking up at the moon in dismay. A year later, he still made me cry. I looked down at my fingers, would I be happy if Nick was offering me a ring instead?
I think it makes me a masochist. To be so totally in love with a guy who could break me so easily, thoughtlessly. And yet, I had a secure, devoted man offering himself to me and I was hesitating.
Nick and I never had a formal ‘talk’ about our future, we just knew. It was a silent agreement, we never talked about a family, kids, except when we would joke about how good looking they would be. We would try and decide if our kids would look like him and his family, since they were all mirror images of each other. I had always envied those families, his family was a unit, and it made me want a big happy family too.
But, he would talk, he would talk about spending our lives together. When it ended, he stared at me speechlessly, “I never thought we would break up. Ever.”
The words still haunted me. We had quietly had the same goals, the same hopes. Never feeling the need to say them out loud, because they were, in spite of everything, understood.
I just don’t know how he could have done that to me, to us. After everything. Despite what happened, he still claimed he wanted to be with me. He could change, things could change, our relationship could change. I wanted to believe him, but I could never trust him again.
The worst thing was wishing I had never known. It had hurt in places I didn’t think existed. I sat alone on a couch at our pre-graduation party trying not to cry. The music had been pounding so loud I could barely make out the words she said. The alcohol had made her feel like being honest, pouring her heart out, apologizing. They had slept together a couple of times but she swore she didn’t realize he and I were serious. Of course, after she found out how long we had been dating she stopped responding to his texts and calls.
I just never understood what I hadn’t done to make him happy. She wasn’t pretty, she wasn’t special, but she was worth throwing it all away. She felt sorry for me. She pitied me. After she finished confiding in me, I stared at her cooly feeling a part of myself die. It was the kind of conversation that left you breathless, motionless, numb. I found solace in the fact that I held it together in front of concerned eyes. I guess all his friends had known, just didn’t know how to tell me, after everything that had happened. The worst, most painful part, was feeling like that girl. The girl who deserved pity. I will never be that girl again. I will never put myself out there to be crushed like that.
Amber’s mother had always told me “Marry a man who loves you more than you love him. It’s the only way to do it.” I had thought it was absurd when I was dating Nick. We were both just so madly in love with each other. I had smugly mentally noted her error, I had found someone who loved me as deeply as I loved him. Life’s little joke I guess, at the end of the day what I learned is that, love isn’t enough. Love isn’t enough to keep two people together.
Because, you see, I really did love him. I loved him more than myself, and yet I couldn’t forgive him. Although I still love him, through and through, I can’t bring myself to forget. I want to forget, I want to forget her face and the images--but I can’t. They are permanently with me, somewhere locked away. I shook my head, sucking in as much air as my lungs would fit, holding it, and then releasing it into the night. I pretended it was all my hurt, flying out of my body.
I picked up the bottle of water and scoffed, what was I doing? How did I get here? I looked over the edge, two stories up, I could just jump and end it all, not have to deal with any decisions. Then again, I looked down at the cushy green grass below and the glowing swimming pool, I would probably screw that up and just break a leg. Then I would have to explain why I would jump off a balcony- “Ah, yes,” they would say, “Poor girl just lost her mind after her boyfriend proposed, he had just gotten a promotion you know. She could just never get over the past, she had baggage.” I imagined them, whoever ‘they’ were saying the word baggage with finger quotations. I put my back against the rod iron, looking into the meticulous kitchen and at the beautiful white orchid Jason had bought me, “Perfect, just like you,” he had said.
I had always loved flowers, like most girls. Nick never bought me flowers, not once, not on my birthdays or Valentine’s Day. Nothing. On the other hand, Jason had bought me dozens upon dozens of beautiful bouquets, roses, and plants. I complained about Jason being too mature when all I had wanted was Nick to stop being immature. I was finally in a grown up relationship and I was acting like a child. Were we all alike, me, James, Jessica and Sara? Digging in our heels at the first sign of commitment? Unwilling to put ourselves into anything that had a foreseeable expiration date? Was it them or was it us? I sat down and curled up on the lounge chair, suddenly my eyes felt as heavy as my heart.



Chapter 8

My face felt hot, too hot; my skin felt like it was burning. I shot straight up, shielding my eyes from the blaring sun above me. I rubbed the sleep from my eyes, squinting around me to get a sense of my bearings. I was on the balcony. More specifically, the lounge chair. I stretched my neck backwards, it had a kink only possible from an uncomfortable night’s sleep and an excess of stress. One of my neighbor’s waved with a big smile while he watered his plethora of rare plants, fan-fucking-tastic. I almost wished I was on the grass below, out of my misery.
I walked into the kitchen and my crazed reflection stared back at me. My hair was matted like a bird’s nest and my cheeks and nose were a freshly burnt red. Attractive. Jason’s consistent snoring filled my ears as I wandered into the hallway, still delirious from my pseudo-city camping trip last night. I snuck into my bathroom quietly and turned on the shower. The best thing to cure my Nick hangover would be a hot shower, wash him off my skin, down the drain and away from me.
I scrubbed myself clean with my aromatherapy body wash, letting the water work its magic. My life would be perfect if I could just live in the shower. No one to bother me, nothing to confuse me, and my aromatherapy to calm my nerves. I have done some of my best thinking in the shower, it is the most quiet place in the world, or at least in my world. Sometimes I imagined my problems as mud on my body, and with my new high-tech shower head from Bed, Bath and Beyond I could spray them off and down the shiny silver drain. As I rinsed the conditioner from my hair, it occurred to me that my awkward obsession with the bath could be rooted in the hours of imaginary Barbie water adventures I had in my bathtub as a little girl. Ken would always rescue Barbie from the menacing foam sharks, whales, and save her from drowning just before she got sucked down the drain. Maybe Jason was right, maybe it was time to stop playing Barbie and start playing grown up.
I put on a clean pair of cotton boy-shorts and a Hanes v-neck I had stolen from Jason a couple months ago. I combed through my long wet hair, putting in product that I just liked for the smell but also appreciated the loose wave it helped my hair hold, beach-chic. I was fresh, clean, and ready to crawl back into the sheets with Jason.
I looked at the silver clock on my nightstand, 11 a.m. A couple days ago I was crawling out of bed and into trouble, now I was backtracking in the hopes of getting some normalcy in my life. I leaned against the door frame, biting my lip.
Jason looked so angelic when he slept. His lips were always slightly parted and his dark hair looked exotic next to his tanned skin. He claimed he always had a nice tan because of his Greek ancestry, I would logically maintain it was from his hour run to the gym everyday.
I want to love him, part of me does love him. The problem was my love was different from the stereotypical storybook love. I was guarded, stubborn and sometimes selfish. I’m just not sure if my love is good enough for a normal person who is capable of the naive love. I closed my eyes and contemplated going to a therapist.
I envisioned Jason and I sitting in the therapists office like that opening scene from “Mr. And Mrs. Smith”--two people who only knew the superficial, fluff, version of the other. I would eventually throw up my hands and declare proudly, “So I’m a little twisted and emotionally unavailable. Show me one person on the street who isn’t.” And the therapist would point to Jason, tell me he had his shit together and I was the one screwing everything up. I scrunched up my nose, what a bitch.
I shook my head and walked back to the kitchen to make a large pot of coffee. It was one of those days were I just wanted to caffeinate myself to oblivion, knowing full well it was going to be a day of emotional hoopla. Talking about my feelings, his feelings, our feelings. Talking about our present, our future--emphasis on our. I just wasn’t cut out for this type of thing. Weren’t girls supposed to be the ones who liked to talk things through, want to know what you are thinking, what you want for the future? Maybe I attracted men who were like women, to compensate for me being more like a male in my emotional make-up. Grow up, Delaney. Adults communicate.
Communication: the root of all evil in the lifespan of my few, scattered relationships. I thought about my little black book , my number, and who I would possibly want to spend the rest of my life with. Nobody came to mind, nobody from my past, present, or prospective future. How could I find my soulmate when I had no idea what he would look like? Be like? Was Jason my soulmate and I just didn’t know it?
After downing a couple cups of coffee, my foot shook as I read over Cosmopolitan. Surely, I was entitled to a little bit of confusion when there were magazines dedicated entirely to talking about men, women and sex. Women referred to the magazine as “The Bible,” for me--some of it just reeked of desperation. For instance, one article was talking about new and creative ways to land a man. My eyes skimmed over the words, the idea was to find a random guy and ask him to hook your necklace for you. It just seemed so superficial, was this really the way to start a successful relationship? Months down the line would you turn to him in bed and giggle, “I just wanted to talk to you so I followed advice from Cosmo.” I sighed, staring at the hot pink cover. Maybe the type of woman who followed their advice was the type of woman men wanted to be with. Maybe, instead of indulging in Cosmo I should be leafing through an advice column, “What to do when you’ve found the perfect guy and still can’t commit.”
I poured out the coffee pot and rinsed out my oversized mug. I stared at the miscellaneous boxes of tea and decided on green tea for Jason. Maybe, if I started “playing house” with Jason, I would eventually fall into it. I set the tea down on the nightstand and drew the sage green curtains.
“Good morning...it’s 11:45, do you want to get up?” I said softly, running my fingers through his hair, calming his bedhead induced cowlick.
“Mmm..already? I can’t believe I slept in this late,” he sighed, rubbing his eyes tiredly.
“Probably the jet lag, you deserve to sleep in sometimes too, you know.” I laughed, I picked up the cup of tea, extending it towards him, “Look, I made you tea.”
He looked up at me, genuinely surprised and grateful, “Thank you, this is a nice surprise. What did I do to deserve you?”
I laughed, it seemed silly that I was so tentative to take things to the next level with Jason. He was a great guy, even if we had our differences. I climbed over him and sat indian style next to him on the bed.
“So, I was thinking, what do you think about going out to a big celebration dinner? I thought I could invite some of the girls, hit the town for a little bit afterwards?”
He took a sip of his tea, quiet. He forced a smile, “Sure, I’ll invite some of the guys too. Get the whole load of them together.”
I raised my eyebrows, this was a new development. Normally, Jason was opposed to doing big group outings, particularly when it involved merging our friends. Maybe I had been silly to think that Jason couldn’t mesh with my friends. Perhaps our two worlds weren’t so separate as I had thought. Maybe, this could work out after all.
I curled up next to him, resting my head on his chest. I closed my eyes contentedly as the sunlight poured into my bedroom. In the light of day, our relationship felt warm and cozy.
Jason stroked my hair as he watched the news and finished his tea, “Alright lazy bones, time for us to get up and start the day. Time is a wasting.”
He jumped out of bed and walked into the bathroom.
“It’s Sunday, let’s just relax today. Maybe do some shopping together?” I inquired, propping myself up in bed again.
“Shopping? That’s the last thing you need to do. Have you seen your closet? Maybe instead you should weed through there and pull out some stuff for donation.”
“What do you mean? I wear everything in that closet.”
He pulled out my first communion dress.
“But that’s SENTIMENTAL!” I leaped off the bed, tugging the white lace dress from his hands. Stroking the pale pink ribbon wistfully.
“Are you still 12? You could maybe fit one leg into that. Come on, Dee.”
I shot him a look, “It’s special to me. It’s..you know, happy memories.”
The words shocked me, I laid the dress down on the bed and looked out the window. It was a subconscious thing, all those years keeping that dress--but now, that I didn’t have my mother to talk about it with..the memories felt..painful. I looked down at the dress, all I had left were..things.
I looked back up to see Jason ruffling through my closet, on a mission to prove his point. He called to me, “Don’t get me wrong, I love you, even if you are a little pack rat.”
I decided to distract myself by walking over and tickling his sides lovingly, “I’m not a pack rat. That closet is perfectly organized and you know it.”
He gave me a big, loud kiss on the lips, pulling away purposefully. He pointed up at the the middle shelf with different floral boxes, “Who keeps flower boxes in their closet? What’s the point of that?” I stared up at the boxes, more memories. “Oh, well you know, it’s just for storage,” I pulled at his hand to get him off his organization mission, “Come on, let’s go do something.”
He shook me off playfully, reaching up to a random box, trying to grab it, “Jason, please, just leave it!” I begged, trying to tug him out of the closet. He was laughing and jumping at it, eventually on his last finger tap, the box came crashing down, pictures splayed all over the floor. My mother’s face stared up at me.
“Jesus, Jason!” I knelt down, scooping them up protectively. He stepped on one of the photos as he tried to get out of the closet, “WATCH IT!” I growled, grabbing the photo from the back of his foot.
“Hey, it was an accident,” He snapped back defensively, “if you didn’t keep all this crap in here it wouldn’t have been a big deal.”
“Crap? My dress and these photos aren’t crap. Just move, please,” I grumbled.
“You know, Dee. Holding onto those things won’t bring your parents back.”
I looked at him, “No shit.”
He sighed, kneeling down next to me, stroking my face. I was half expecting him to start lecturing me about a memory being in your head, not in your material possessions. But, he didn’t, as if sensing the topic was off boundaries. He stood back up, “How did they die?”
I looked up at him, pausing. This was one of those moments in a relationship where you are supposed to share your souls, get close and cry. I wasn’t in the mood for that kind of talk, “I don’t really like talking about it...” I said, putting the lid back onto the box.
“Sometimes talking about it helps, let me be here for you,” he offered, staring at me intently.
I had never talked about the death of my parents, except to the girls. The wounds were still fresh and it never did me any good to discuss it. People had told me that by talking about them, it would help me heal, keep their memories real. But, it just reminded me that I couldn’t call them--I couldn’t hug them, I couldn’t be with them. As Jason had said, they wouldn’t be coming back. I shook my head, getting off the floor--too many memories for one day.
“Dee, don’t runaway from this conversation, it’s important.”
“Run away? Look, sorry, it’s just not something I like to talk about on a Sunday afternoon,” I said dismissively, walking towards the kitchen.
“See, you just walk away. You’re walking away from this conversation right now.”
“I’m not walking away from this conversation, I’m expecting you to respect the fact that maybe I don’t want to think about it right now.”
“Not talking about it doesn’t make it not real,” He persisted.
“People deal with things differently. Don’t be so self-righteous about it,” I retorted, deciding mid-walk that I wanted to get out of the house for a bit. Suddenly, it felt like I was being trapped. I walked back into memory lane and pulled out a pair of sweats. Sliding them on and slipping into a pair of flip flops.
“What do you think you’re doing? You’re just going to leave?”
“I need some time to cool off. That’s all.”
“You’re so immature, sometimes I feel like I’m dating a child. You’re really acting your age right now. Way to ruin the day.”
I grabbed my purse, shooting him a look. “Ruin the day? Thanks for ruining my day. I really wanted to think about my dead parents. I may be immature, but you’re prying.”
“You’re supposed to be my girlfriend, and yet somehow you can’t talk to me about this? I mean Jesus, bad things happen to everybody.”
His words stopped me, bad things? I could feel the anger rising, the last thing I wanted to do have to defend my decision to not talk about it, “Bad things? I lost my parents, Jason, if I don’t feel like talking about it, I don’t have to talk about it. Let it go.”
“Yeah Delaney, your life’s so tough. Nice purse,” he snapped.
I stopped and turned to him, “What the hell is that supposed to mean?”
“What do you think, that you’re fooling everybody?”
“What are you even talking about?”
“You never want to talk about your parents but you expect it to go unnoticed that you don’t work, drive a BMW, and lug around a Gucci bag like it’s nothing.”
“That’s none of your business.”
“None of my business? I’m your boyfriend. Jesus, I’m out of here, I can’t deal with you and your bullshit right now.”
“My bullshit?!” I raised my voice in disbelief. I felt my blood boiling as my hand shook looking for my car keys. “You’re not listening to me. I simply asked you to back off. That’s bullshit”
He laughed condescendingly, “You’ve never had to work for anything. That’s why you just walk away. You don’t know how to get your hands dirty and actually work at something. Life’s so goddamn tough.”
I was enraged. I gripped my keys so tight in my hand that I could feel the metal digging into my skin, “You are so out of line right now--don’t be here when I get back.”
I opened the door and then slammed it shut behind me. I was practically shaking, I could feel the tears bubbling up in my eyes but I refused to let them fall. I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction of getting to me.
“Yeah you’re such a martyr!” He yelled after me into the hallway. I didn’t turn around, instead of waiting for the elevator I booked it down the stairs. I pulled out my cell phone and called Amber, “Can you meet me?”
“Sure, what’s going on?” She inquired, sensing the tension in my voice.
“I just need to talk to you, Jason and I had a big fight. Do you want to get lunch at Soler?”
I felt myself calming down as I got into my car. Although his words followed me, the anger dissipated from my body. I adjusted my seat, reversed, and drove off.
“Alright, sure thing. Be careful driving, are you okay?” Amber was the most caring friend I had ever had. You could call her and tell her you got a paper-cut and she would offer to come over with a band-aid.
“Eh, I’m upset. I’m just trying to calm down.” I glanced at my shaking hands, trying to focus on what I was doing.
“Okay, well drive carefully. We’ll figure it all out. I’m grabbing my keys right now, I love you!”
“You too. See you in a bit.” I snapped the phone shut and tossed it into the cup holder.
It felt like seconds until I was in the parking lot of Soler. I shook my head, mad at myself. I didn’t even remember the drive there, blinded by rage. I had given into crying once I had the music playing and my sunglasses covering my eyes. Hidden from the rest of the world. I had hated crying in front of people since I was a little girl. One night, in a dramatic ploy to get attention from my parents, I had stayed up all night wailing away and stomping around my room. My Mom had eventually given in and come upstairs angrily, “Delaney, crying isn’t going to get you anywhere is it?”
It struck me then that that made sense. Crying wasn’t going to change the fact that I was grounded. I looked up at her, suddenly quiet, and I just nodded. She gave me a kiss on the forehead, “No more tears.”
I inhaled as much air as I could get into my lungs. It felt like just yesterday. I could remember how she smelled, she always wore Coco Mademoiselle by Chanel. I secretly kept a small bottle in my car and in my nightstand, whenever I was missing her, I would spritz a little into the air and fall asleep soundly. It instantly calmed me down. I remember walking into the hallway after she and my Dad would get home from a Concert or Gala, her perfume would linger in the hallway and I would breathe it in from my room contentedly, happy they were home.
I saw Amber’s beat up civic pull into the parking lot. She hated her car, so much that I was surprised she hadn’t crashed it yet. I remember in highschool, this girl named Brett had crashed her old mercedes in hopes she would get a new one. Her parents caught onto her plan and ended up buying her a used Le Baron. She was obviously upset at the turn of events and it was pretty entertaining whenever she would pull up into the school parking lot, her mercedes looked pretty good to her by then.
She stepped out, looking stylish as ever. She walked over to me and gave me a big, sincere hug.
“Are you okay? What happened?”
I sighed, hugging her back tightly. I wanted to cry, but I fought back the tears, shaking my head and blinking furiously. “I don’t even know, we got into a big fight, a big big fight. Sorry, I don’t know what I’m about to cry, I think it’s from lack of sleep.”
We nestled into a table by the window, secluded from everybody else. Amber could tell it was going to be an epic venting session, “Tell me everything.”
And I did, I told her about how scared I was to be with Jason. That I was afraid I was never going to able to love anyone fully. I told her that he had asked about my parents, instantaneously her hand was on mine, comforting me.
“Am I crazy? Is it me?”
“No, you’re not crazy. Everyone deals with grief differently. I pray for you all the time, and what you’ve gone through nobody can understand but you. You deal with it however feels right for you.”
The funny thing is, I knew Amber was being sincere when she said she prayed for me every night. Her family was not only very caring, they were also very Catholic. Whenever her mother invited me over to a big Mexican dinner, I always sat awkwardly as we all held hands and said grace in Spanish. I, of course, just listened and snuck a peak at the yummy food when I was supposed to have my eyes closed with a smile spread on my lips. Although I didn’t believe in organized religion, I found comfort in knowing that Amber believed enough for the both of us.
I needed to confide in someone--not about Jason, it was more than Jason, bigger than that, so the word vomit just kind of fell out of my mouth before I had time to contemplate what I was going to say, “Sometimes, I worry that the pain will never go away. People tell me that time heals everything. But I worry that’s something cliche that people just say. You know? I’ve read all those books about grief that people gave me at the funeral. None of it helps. According to them, I’m still in denial--but acknowledging that doesn’t change the fact that I miss them. I miss them so much that it aches in places I didn’t think existed.”
Amber didn’t say anything. She just listened. That was the nicest thing anyone had done for me in a long time, just letting me get it out. I told her what Jason had said about the money. She shook her head thoughtfully,
“Delaney, I’ve known you for a long time. Don’t feel bad about the money. You lost your parents. It’s not..it’s not a trade off.” Her eyes stared into mine beseechingly, unsure of how to say what she wanted to.
I nodded, rubbing my eyes. I was exhausted. I was exhausted with my relationship, my life, my grief.
“Yeah,” I scoffed, meeting her gaze for a minute, “Talk about an unfair trade. I’m afraid to check the mail. I never know when another letter from the bank is going to be coming--can you imagine? It’s like a monthly reminder they’re dead. It’s just a huge reminder of what I don’t have. That they’re gone. Forever,” The last word escaped my lips, knotted by a gasp. I knew then that if I started crying, I would never stop. Sometimes, it was better to take a deep, shaky breath, than let it all out.
I didn’t have to tell her that I didn’t want to sound ungrateful. She knew. I didn’t have to make sure I was saying everything politically correct like I would have had to with Jason or someone who didn’t know me that well. The truth was, I was broken. I was broken and I had no idea how to glue myself back together, mend the fragments. Maybe it came down to the fact that the two people I was supposed to look to for guidance, to depend on, were gone. They were snatched away without a moment’s notice. Our relationship had never been perfect, we bickered, we argued about pointless things, we were normal. It’s funny in a way, that we have a tendency to take the people who mean the most to us in our lives fore-granted. We argue with them because we can, we don’t appreciate them because we think they will always be there. We don’t say the things we should because we think they know.
Amber was cautious, knowing it was a sensitive subject to talk about and kind of taboo, “Delaney--that money is a way for your parents to still take care of you. Try not to think about it as a sign that they are gone, but more as a sign that they are still with you? Jason was out of line today. The worst thing about fighting is not knowing when you’ve gone too far, hit below the belt. This isn’t a sporting event where you can call time out. It sounds like you both said things you didn’t mean.”
I nodded somberly, looking out at a family getting into their car. The little girl was whirling around with a birthday balloon, completely care free. I envied her.
She continued, “Was it just the comments about the money that upset you?”
I sighed, my heart felt heavy. I shrugged, stirring my black coffee as I fidgeted in my seat. “No, I guess not. It was a couple different things. For instance, he told me that I run away from everything.” I sighed again, “I guess I should tell you--yesterday when I picked him up from the airport he mentioned us moving into together, and maybe even getting married.”
Her eyes widened, marriage was like Christmas to Amber. She had been planning her future wedding day since we were little, thumbing through bridal magazines in the grocery store wistfully, in short--she was the complete opposite of me. “Married? Wow. What did you say?”
“I didn’t really say much of anything. I don’t really know what to say or what to think. I mean, how can I even seriously contemplate being with someone when I’m such a wreck? God, after my parents died--the whole floor came out from under me in my relationship with Nick. It was like life just decided to shit all over me. Maybe I’m not recovered yet. Maybe I’m still angry...bitter. Or something.”
“Maybe you’re afraid Jason will leave you like Nick did.”
I looked up at the ceiling, it was true. After I started seeing a therapist and taking medication for my anxiety attacks, Nick pulled further and further away. Like I was some kind of disease he didn’t want to catch. Thinking back on it made me angry. It was like our relationship went to shambles, what I thought was a solid bond was actually just a deck of cards. My parents died my senior year of college, and luckily it was towards the end of the year because majority of my teachers ended up giving me a pity B. I couldn’t concentrate on my school work, and sometimes I would just break down in the middle of class and have to leave. It was like I wasn’t in control of myself. One day I called Nick to pick me up from class because I was feeling really down. He said he was too busy, “I’m sorry I don’t understand Delaney, maybe if one of my parents died I’d get it. Get it together. It’s our last year, I don’t want to spend it wanting to slit my wrists.”
Looking back on it, that was probably the moment something in me snapped. I hung up the phone without saying a word, no longer angry, no longer crushed, I was just there. I was totally devoid of any emotion, as if all the pain I had been feeling suddenly became too much and my body just shut down. My therapist had aptly called it a “gray-out.” It’s almost as if you, yourself, are replaced by a zombie version. You go through the motions of everyday existence but you aren’t really there, you aren’t really you. You’re somebody else.
“I just started feeling slightly normal again. Sometimes, even being happy when I wake up. I’m afraid, if I talk about it, if I hash it out, that it’ll all come back again. I guess maybe, if I don’t talk about it, it doesn’t seem as real. Jason called me on it, and I guess that’s why I got so mad. Because it’s true, I’m not walking away--i’m sprinting for dear life. I have a guy who wants to talk about my parents with me, instead of pretending it never happened, and I’m acting like Nick. I’m ignoring it. I’m trying to go about the motions of a relationship without the real intimacy. But, is that okay? To not talk to him about it? Because it just seems like when I am, who I am, people don’t know what to say to me. I don’t want to lose every guy I want to date because I’ve had a huge emotional blow in my life.”
“Maybe you just need to be alone right now. Give yourself time to heal.” Amber offered.
I bit my lip, knowing there was something to it. “But I don’t want to be alone. Do I have to be alone in order to work on myself?”
She thought for a minute and then said, “You know people say you can’t be in a relationship until you are content with yourself. I don’t know how the saying exactly goes, but it’s more or less like that. Like, you can’t be there for someone else in a relationship, until you know how to be there for yourself.”
I groaned, “God that could take years. It seems, the ways I take care of myself, are unacceptable to other people. When did guys become the ones who want to talk and share feelings? I just want to do what I want to do. I don’t want to have to talk to someone about something if I don’t feel like--does that make me crazy?”
“No, that makes you human. But, I really think it would do you some good to just take a time out from relationships and just take some time for you,” She laughed, “So, you can quote ‘do what you want to do.’”
I smiled too, I was starting to feel calm again. Maybe the world wasn’t falling all around me. Maybe it was just a small storm.
“Man, this sucks. Jason and I were planning a big celebration dinner for his promotion. Now that won’t be happening, I’m not even sure how to go about fixing this.”
Amber sighed, “Well, it’s up to you. Do you feel like fixing things?”
“Not at the moment, I just don’t want to deal with him. It’s like I’m so mad at him, but I don’t like fighting. It’s just so draining.”
“Well, call him when you feel like it. Nothing has to be decided tonight.”
“True, true. It’d be nice to go out for awhile and take my mind off things, would you want to get the girls together and go do something?”
Amber beamed, “I thought you would never ask, I’ve been dying to go to Vision, that club downtown. Apparently all the athletes go there to hang out,” She raised her eyebrows mischievously, “I’ll bet Kyle will die when I’m on the arm of some hot basketball player.”
Amber then continued to fill me in on the details of Kyle’s facebook and the pictures of him and his possible new girlfriend. It was nice to listen to her and somebody else’s drama--mine had become too much for me to deal with. I guess at the end of the day, no matter what else happens, if I don’t have a boyfriend to hold my hand--atleast I can count on Amber to do it.

Chapter 9
I opened the door of my apartment, half hoping Jason would still be there to tell me how foolish we had both been, but the only sound was Bachi whining happily to see me. I walked into the living room and saw a note on the kitchen counter.
“I don’t think we should talk for a few days-I want a break. I’ll call you when I’m ready.”
I sighed, it wouldn’t blow over as quickly as I had hoped. Drama, drama, drama. I walked around my apartment, staring at my father’s chair in the corner by the french doors. It was a dark, chocolate leather, worn in where he used to sit and read. I pulled my favorite blanket off the arm of the couch and curled up in the seat, closing my eyes. I would never admit this to anyone, but sometimes I pretended it was him holding me. The chair was so comfortable, I didn’t want to get out of it. I couldn’t tell you just how long I sat in the chair, staring blankly at the wall in front of me, but it was long enough for the sun to set and all the light to leave the apartment. My cell phone buzzed in my purse from the floor, I was a little disoriented but managed to scramble and answer it, “Hello?”
“Hey, do you have a sec? I need to talk.” It was James. Apparently, something was happening to everyone today.
“Sure, what’s going on?”
“She got a job in California, she said she’s going to take it because she wants to be closer to her family.”
I didn’t know ‘her’ name, but I felt like I knew her after what he had said about her being commitment phobic.
“Oh, shit. What are you going to do?”
“Well, I have a job here. And, I don’t think we want to bother with the long distance. I think it’s over.”
“Huh.” I was deep in thought, should I defend her? Should I defend someone who was afraid of relationships too? Maybe she wasn’t just like me, but I felt like I understood where she was coming from. “Well, did you talk to her about it?”
“Sort of. She got mad at me when I called her on it.”
Eerily familiar.
“Are you happy? With her, I mean.”
It was a strange question, but it’s what came to mind. If James really loved this girl, maybe he should be patient with her, wait out the storm.
“Don’t hold this against me if it blows up in my face, but I could really be with her. I really love her.” That surprised me, James was usually very guarded with his emotions. He was a great communicator, but very private, cautious. That was something we understood about each other.
“Hmmm. I mean, well, it seems that you can’t help who you love-but what you can help is..how you show them. Maybe, this is just another test. Like, bumps in the road are tests..for the relationship. If you can’t survive the bumps now, how will you ever survive the crashes life gives you, you know, later on?”
“Tests?”
“Yeah like, maybe to see how much you are really in it. If you care about her, maybe you should just be there for her. Not pressure her about it, just enjoy it. Like she said.”
I could tell he was frustrated, his voice was tired and tense. “Yeah I guess, I just don’t get it. She never lets me in. I never know what she’s thinking.”
“Do you think she’s into the relationship? Or is her not saying anything, just a way to avoid telling you the truth?”
 “Go on..”
“Well, I mean. Is she just avoiding telling you she doesn’t want to be with you? I hope that doesn’t sound too harsh.”
“No. Could be. Man, I hate girls.”
I smirked, “Perfect, I hate guys. Together, we take care of the whole planet.”
“Jason and you fighting again?”
“Of course. It’s what I do, I fight with people, ruin relationships, and am just destined to spend my life alone.”
“Well, hey, you and I can spend our lives alone together.” James was always brutally honest. He never sugar coated anything, or said something just to make me feel better. He knew that in the long run, the truth, was better than taking comfort in a lie.
“James?”
“Yeah?”
“I hope it works out, for you. Maybe she just needs time. Maybe, being there for her now, will do wonders in the long run.”
“Hm. Interesting. I just don’t want to look like an idiot.”
“Nobody does. But, to me, sticking by someone, is never grounds for looking like an idiot. Do what feels right for you..whatever that may be. God, that sounded preachy. Sorry. You get what I meant.”
He sighed, I could tell he was thinking. It bothered me that he was so frustrated by this girl.
“I’m sorry I don’t know her. It would be nice to be able to tell you what was going on in her head. The only thing I can say, is that in my experience, actions speak louder than words. Sometimes it’s just nice for someone to hold your hand when you don’t know how to ask them to.”
“Word.”
“Word,” I repeated with a smile, “It’ll work out. It always does. I’m going to go though, I have to meet Amber for a night of drinking away my sorrows.”
“Sounds like a plan, have a good one.”
I hung up the phone, pulling it to my heart. It seemed like every relationship had communication problems. How much easier would life, relationships, be if we could just say what we really meant. If I could tell Jason I wasn’t ready and he could be okay with it, things would be better. But maybe, there’s a reason we foul up, say the wrong things, maybe sometimes it’s not the right time..or maybe sometimes it’s just not the right person to say them to.
Getting ready was going to be a chore. My sour mood had turned into a sour body image. All my clothes felt uncomfortable, boring, and unflattering. I sat down on the floor of my closet, eventually laying flat with my arms folded behind my head.
I stared at the infinite choices. Neat rows of colors--turquoise, black, white? What color was I? Dare I even venture to wear pink? I had made that mistake, decking myself out in a pink dress with pink and wicker espadrille pumps, you know the kind that wrap around your ankle in a bow? Very 2 years ago. I truly looked like Barbie on crack, only to be bettered by the fact that I was plastered moments later and eventually throwing up out the side of my friends car. Since then, I’ve believed that tragic outfits make for tragic nights out.
I peeled myself off the floor, took a quick shower, and then slunk back into a t-shirt and sweats. I called Amber as I started pulling go-to outfits, “Hey, what are you wearing?”
Her stressed voice caught me off guard, “Oh my god, Dee, I have no freaking idea. You will not believe what happened.” The word believe was so exaggerated that I thought maybe, for just one minute, something very horrible had happened.
“What, what? Are you okay?”
“No! I’m like fucking flipping out,” I could hear her moving things around, hair appliances knocking over, and the frantic tone of her voice, “I swear to God I’ve put on like 20 pounds this week. Don’t say anything to make me feel better, because I only have myself to blame. I ate all of my tia’s enchiladas and desserts, gorged myself like a fat pig. Ugh, but that’s nothing,” I rolled my eyes, thinking that the next time I beat myself up about my body, I need to remember what it’s like to listen to a crazy girl griping about it, “Donny is coming. He’s going to be here, TONIGHT.”
I paused, running a mental checklist of names and faces I should know, “I’m sorry, Donny?” I said his name like I had misheard it, who was named Donny these days? Donald, Don? Hello 52.
“Yes!” She hissed into the phone, “DONNY! The guy that started facebook poking me?! Remember? Like a month ago? Well, fuck, I mean his cousin lives here so he’s coming. He’s going to be here, TONIGHT. What am I supposed to do? I look like SHIT!” My eyes widened, this had gone from bad..to just tragic.
“Okay, Amber, breathe. First of all, do you even know this guy? That sounds like some pervert who has way too much time on his hands on the weekend to just look at girls on facebook. Who is this, Donny?”
“Dee. I don’t have time to explain right now. My apartment is a mess and he asked me if he could crash here into tonight because his cousin’s girlfriend is in town. What am I going to do?!”
I shook my head in disbelief. Amber had really lost her mind this time. I looked at the clock on my nightstand, it was 8:30. “Okay, Amber, I’m going to get ready really quick and then I’ll come over and help you.” I said it as calmly as I could manage, knowing she was probably pacing around her room like a maniac.
“Okay, okay, okay. Thanks, you’re a lifesaver!” She hung up as she finished saying the word, it was probably for the best that she got off the phone. I could only imagine how many things she was doing at once.
Her freak out made me determined to wear the first thing I put on. I was wearing my favorite blue dress with cream peep toe pumps. I matched my bag to my shoes and managed to do my hair and make-up without any major errors. I was shutting the door to my bedroom when my phone buzzed in my clutch, I dug through and answered, “Yeah?”
“Sorry, can you bring that one black top I love?”
I contemplated telling her I was already out the door, but instead I decided to be a good friend, “Absolutely. Do you need anything else?”
“No, no, that’s it, thaan-” Click.

I arrived at Amber’s cute apartment that always smelled like vanilla, just like her, to find an open door. I nudged it open further, “Amber?”
I walked through the hallway to her bedroom which was littered with discarded outfits, the heat was permeating from her bedroom door--too many hair appliances on at once. Her room was spotless except for the miscellaneous make-up, clothes, shoes, bags, and hair brushes scattered over her bed.
I found her, in hair rollers and a robe, scrubbing at her bathtub like a mad woman. She grunted as she tried to get every last bit of grime, “I’ve been soaking it for three fucking hours, and it still isn’t fucking clean!” The bottle of bleach was open next to her feet, I quickly picked it up and put on the lid, squinting as I caught a whiff.
“Look Amber, what are the chances he’s going to be in your shower?”
“UM HELLO!?! Guys always shower in the morning. How will he ever want to marry me if he thinks I’m dirty?!”
“Whoa, whoa, whoa. Sweetie, drop the sponge. You’ve been sniffing way too many cleaning products today. You don’t even know this guy, and if he judges you for what seems to be a speck of mildew..he’s not worth your time.”
I could see this wasn’t going to be easy. “Look, it’s 9:15. Why don’t you finish getting ready, have a glass of wine, and I’ll finish in the bathroom. Where’s your dirty clothes basket?”
Her eyes looked at me desperately, thankfully. “In the closet, where’s the shirt?”
I tossed it to her lightly, cautiously taking her place by the tub. Amber disappeared from the room in a flurry. I emptied the tub and rinsed it down--spotless. Then, I moved around her room collecting the adorable outfits she had decided made her look fat and then moved into the hallway. I barely managed to put all the clothes in the basket. I looked at my watch, 9:40. I straightened her bed and put all her hair stuff neatly in their respective drawers in her bathroom, while she sat on the floor doing her make-up in the mirror on the back of the door.
I poured myself a hefty glass of wine and then came back to sit in her meticulous bedroom, “Okay, crisis averted. Who is this Donnnnnay?”
She was mid-heavy black eye liner. “I’m going for smoky eyes, that’s sexy right? So, Donny is this guy my cousin knew from highschool, he sent me a message saying he saw me in one of her pictures and thought I was really pretty. We’ve been talking a lot on the phone, he’s from Texas. His accent, is sooooo sexy.”
“Donnnnnaaaay from Texas.”
She ignored me, “Anyway, he’s from a good family and he drives a Denali.”
I finished my glass of wine before I responded.
“What happened to Kyle?”
“So over, so, so over it. Him and his trashy girlfriend will be very happy together. I have Donny, now.”
So now this Donny and her had a future. It was going to be a long night. The guy sounded like a total loser. We both had another glass of wine, which was fine for me but for someone as petite as Amber--she was a little bit tipsy by the time we went to the club and had no problem telling me, again and again.
“Dee, I’m dr-uh-nk.” She whispered as she stepped clumsily out of the cab.
“Amber, get it together, you only had 2 glasses of wine.”
“When you were there.” She confessed.
“So what, you were boozing it up while you were scrubbing away at the tub?” It almost made me laugh, a woman possessed is a dangerous thing.
“I was NER-VOUS. Don’t be so judgmental, just help me. Do I look okay? Don’t let me do anything stupid either.”
Whenever someone says that to you, you know you are in for a night of debauchery. Because, that person will probably continue to drink and become more and more mischievous, eventually telling you that they are going to go home with some equally drunk loser they had had a deep drunken heart to heart with. Then you would have to, soberly, explain yourself to the two drunks and look like the bad guy--until the next morning when you were the Patron Saint of Patron Silver and they were hung over.
So, soberly aware of what I was getting myself into, we bee-lined to the bar and tried to look oblivious while Amber was anxiously awaiting a message from Donny that they were there.
“Oh my god,” slurp of vodka, “what if he doesn’t show? Or what if he does show, sees me, and then wants to leave?” another big slurp of vodka.
“I doubt, Donnaaaay, will be disappointed.”
She ignored me, checking her phone again. I rested my head on my hand as I sat dismissively on the bar stool. I took a look around at the crowd, a massive amount of twenty-somethings who were trying way too hard. There was a group of guys who towered over the rest, 6’5” and up. One of the tallest was staring right at me, when I met his gaze he didn’t bother to look away. Bold.
I nudged Amber boredly, “Hey, do you know who those guys are? They’re staring and none of them look familiar.” She turned to look over her shoulder casually, “Holy Shit. They’re starters.”
Starters? None of that meant anything to me. For some reason, Amber was always falling all over some up and coming athlete. To me, it didn’t matter what you did--and I was definitely never going to be one of those groupie girls trying to scam on a guy. So desperada.
I turned away, the last thing I needed was some guy hitting on me at a bar. I sipped my drink, hoping it would take away the painful memory of my earlier battle royale.
“He’s HERE. Oh my god, we need to go to the bathroom!”
My eyes darted over to the massively long line of the women’s restroom. “Amber, no way, way too many people already.” She grabbed my hand as we got up from our stools, “Okay, then we need to be talking to guys so I don’t look like I’ve just been waiting for him.” Before I could say anything, we were face to face with the “starters.” I was humiliated.
“Hi, I’m Amber and this is my friend Delaney. I just wanted to say hi, I’m a big fan.” She gushed to one of the guys I didn’t recognize, he was wearing large diamond earrings and too many diamond rings--that was all I needed to notice to know I didn’t need to bother having a conversation. I continued to look around uncomfortably instead of conversing. I turned back around to find a hand in front of me, “Hi, I’m Kevin.” I shook it briefly, “Delaney.”
I swirled the straw in the ice, putting my weight on one leg. “Aren’t you having fun?” He smirked.
“Fun? Oh yeah, this is a blast.”
“You don’t like the club?”
“No, can’t say that I do. It’s a bunch of people trying too hard. You know, 30,000 dollar millionaires. Please.”
He laughed loudly, squeezing my waist and pulling me into his laughing frame, “That’s great! Did you guys hear that? My club sucks!”
The heat rose to my face, “Oh, I had no idea. I’m sorry..” I winced, now not only was I rude, I had embarrassed myself in front of the owner. He stood up, towering over me with a big smile on his face, “Drinks on me, maybe I can help change your opinion.” I had no idea how to redeem myself so I smiled politely and followed him to the bar, trailed after by Amber answering her phone with a loud, “HELLO?! DONNY?!!”
He put his hand on my back, “I take it you’re meeting someone?”
“Oh, no, just my friend. She’s meeting some guy here.” I rolled my eyes, still trying to figure out why this guy was being so nice to me. For a club owner, he was incredibly tall and broad. I could see the muscles moving underneath his blue button up shirt. A few years ago, I would have been picking my jaw up off the floor.
He was about to respond as Amber rushed forward, gripping my arm, “They’re walking in. LOOK CASUAL!” She yelled. Her eyes were wild as she moved forward next to Kevin, “So, you own this club?”
My eyes grazed over the crowd of fake n’ bakers and guys trying way too hard, to land on two guys. One guy was wearing a baseball cap, green polo, and jeans. His tan implied he was of latin descent and his dancing eyes implied he was trouble. The other guy reminded me of someone from New Jersey, his eyebrows were waxed to oblivion, he was wearing sparkling earrings, and jeans that were just a little too tight. I nudged Amber, “Ahem..I think your date has arrived.” She turned abruptly from Kevin and waved casually to Donny and his cousin, “I’ll be right back, oh my god!” She shoved her purse at me and I took my hiding spot by the bar, I looked up to find Kevin smirking at me curiously and handing me a new drink, “It looks like you’re going to need this.”
I found myself smiling back, this guy had never ending confidence and I had to admit, it was really sexy and refreshing. I took a sip, “Well, I must say, you do serve good drinks.”
He pretended to wipe his forehead, “Great, now I can breathe easy knowing I’ve impressed you with one thing tonight.” He leaned forward, whispering in my ear, “Is there anything else I can do?”
I could feel the hair pricking up on my arms as goosebumps covered my body, both of my eyebrows raised as I looked back to him, “Um..not sure what I’m supposed to say back to that..” I laughed uncomfortably, this was definitely why I normally avoided the club scene.
I could feel his eyes burning on me, “I’ll be honest, I saw you from across the room and I knew I had to get to know you, does that make me a bad guy?”
I took another sip, turning to try and see if Amber was going to be coming back to interrupt the awkward conversation anytime soon. “No, not at all. I’m flattered really, I mean you seem nice and everything but I’m not really interested.” I scrunched my nose, in instances like this I had no idea how to be tactful or even really polite. Kevin was incredibly handsome and successful, but he seemed like ‘that guy’--way too smooth and way too forward. Besides, after the heavy events of the day with Jason, I wasn’t sure it was the best time to be accepting date offers.
He leaned forward again, his confidence unwavering, “Well why don’t you let me take you out to dinner before you decide you’re not interested? What do you have to lose?”
His face was inches from mine and his eyes showed no sign of faltering, I felt my body temperature start to rise. I took a step backwards, turning my body to face away from the bar to get some personal space back--and to keep my head. My mind was racing, I had an attractive club owner asking me out on a date, when my pseudo-boyfriend decided he wanted to take a break because I was completely, emotionally unavailable--maybe going out with ‘that guy’ would be a better fit? I stared into his hazel green eyes as a smile played across his lips, I leaned forward to say, “Sure, under one condition.”
He smirked, “What’s that, Delaney?” I bit my lip and said, “That we don’t come here for our date.” I arched my eyebrow suggestively, wondering if he could handle the sarcasm. He folded his arms over his chest in faux-deep thought, “Hmm..gorgeous girl...or a loud, over-crowded club? Hmm...what ever will I decide?”
My heart had started to pound a little faster, there was something undeniably sexy about this man. Maybe it was the fact that he towered over me, maybe it was the air of confidence that surrounded him, maybe it was that he seemed powerful? What is that about men in charge that is just so irresistible? His voice interrupted my thoughts, “I’ll pick the gorgeous girl, under one condition.”
I took another sip of my drink, eyeing him flirtatiously, “What’s the condition?” He laughed lightly, whispering in my ear “That you don’t bring them..,” he pulled away nodding towards the incoming approach of the three stooges. Amber was looking completely awkward and forced, Donny was checking out every girl that walked by, and his cousin looked like he wanted to be in a hip hop video with his out of place dance moves. “Oh, Jesus..i’m so embarrassed” I breathed, closing my eyes momentarily hoping it was just a mirage. I had about two minutes of sanity before I had to hold a conversation with the facebook stalker. “Well, write down your number and I’ll give you a call to set up the date.” I nodded, starting to lose my head when I looked into his eyes--very charming. I wrote down my number and extended it to him, “talk to you soon.” He nodded and turned to go back towards the ‘starters,’ and I turned to be greeted by an intense Amber, “Delaney, this Donny and his cousin Steve.” I put my hand out limply to shake theirs, “Nice to meet you.”
We all stood there awkwardly for a few minutes, sipping our drinks and listening to the deafening pop remix. I leaned back against the bar, ordering my third drink of the night that would hopefully do the trick and send me into an indifferent buzz haze. “Double, for me!” Amber chimed in, gripping my arm like women do in the movies when they are going into labour, “I don’t know how to talk to him!” she hissed, “Do I look okay? Do you think he’s interested?” I winced under the arm grip and she apologized briefly before scooping up her drink, I looked over at Donnnnaaay and his metro cousin, they seemed lost in their own conversation and he definitely wasn’t attempting to make conversation with me or Amber, “he seems kind of like a loser. And what the hell is up with the N’Sync wannabe?” I turned back to pay for the drinks when the bar tender replied, “Not necessary, Kevin’s got your drinks for the rest of the night.”
Amber looked at me enthusiastically, “Ohmigod, he totally wants you! Ohmigod!” I rolled my eyes, blushing. “Is it terrible that I accepted his offer for a date? I mean yeah, he’s sexy, but come on, he owns a club, doesn’t that seem kind of shady?” Amber shook her head, “No way, definitely not. He is sooooo hot. I’m so jealous right now!” She finished her drink in a couple long sips, “Whoa, no need to bogart your cocktail, not like they aren’t serving them all night.” She turned to face me, a serious/crazed look in her honey brown eyes that were glazed by alcohol, with her lips set in a line, “I need liquid courage.”
I can sum up the rest of the night in one word, awkward. Maybe tragic would be equally fitting as well. After one too many drinks, we were on our way past awkward and into conversational. I danced with Donny’s metrosexual, boy band, wannabe cousin and received several empathetic looks from Kevin who would smile at me from across the room whenever he wasn’t working, and eventually Amber and Donny were drunk enough to make out on the dance floor, and decide it was time to leave to head back to her apartment. I decided not to intervene since she had soberly invited him to stay there, and then I also started wondering how in the hell Mr. Metro had a girlfriend, “I loooooove your Via Spiga’s” he breathed, smacking my ass, “You are one fine piece of ass. And a great dancer at that” he winked, ordering me another drink from the bar. At this point, I was pretty sure that ‘girlfriend’ was code for effeminate ‘boyfriend’ and that I had somehow managed to pick up a possible shopping partner.
As I unlocked the door to my apartment, greeted by the quiet and the snoring of Bachi, I wasn’t as sad as I thought I would be to not find Jason waiting for me on the couch. Maybe, instead of a wholesome, settle-down type like Jason, I needed someone with an edge, excessive confidence, and swagger? I sighed, crumpling up Jason’s “break” note from earlier and tossing it into the garbage. Tonight had made me realize that there was no reason I needed to be in an emotional desert, there were plenty of guys to pick from in the world and maybe Jason just wasn’t a good fit. And hey, atleast I wasn’t going home with someone like Donnnnaaay or his cousin, all’s well that ends well.
I changed into my pajamas, brought a bottle of water into my room and took two tylenols to help prevent a hang-over. I pulled the comforters up around me as Bachi jumped on the bed and circled several times until he found a comfortable spot in my side. Mountain scented detergent. I patted Bachi’s side, “Tomorrow, I’m changing the sheets.”