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Tuesday, June 30, 2009

"I see my path, but I don't know where it leads. Not knowing where I'm going is what inspires me to travel it.”

Alright, I have to tell you, Sedona was a trip. We decided to go to Angels and...Outlaws? I always forget the name.., On Saturday night before leaving bright and early Sunday morning.




It's kind of funny, I somehow manage to appear a party girl via facebook even though I consider myself kind of mellow. Who knows.

Anyway, Angels and Outlaws. Very dark. Very hot. Very epic. There wasn't really anything super exciting besides the fact that we got free drinks..which is the explanation of the random pole dance. One of those, seemed like a good idea at the time moments with my partner in crime. But yeah, we mainly held down the dance floor, warding off creepy creepertons. Pick up lines of the night,

1. me: "I'm sorry, I lost my friends"
guy: "Don't worry, now you've got a new one."

2. guy: "You're the thickest white girl I've ever seen."
me: "I was a curvy black woman in a previous life."
guy: "All I can say is that i've been on tour with Kid Rock..and daaaaamn girl."


Here's the thing..I just feel like people take themselves so seriously out. Nights out with my girlfriends are filled with nonstop laughter, we might even border on too silly sometimes--I.E, doing the robot in the middle of the dance floor.

So the next morning, we packed up our belongings and hit the road on our 2 hour trip to Sedona after stopping at Starbucks and Einstein Bagels. The trip was going along so smoothly until we pulled up to Slide Rock (you must know we went without a map..and had no real idea of where we were going..well navigated Steph!) and they informed us there was absolutely NO SWIMMING at Slide Rock because of Ecoli. I thought it would be funny to barter with the park ranger, "Half price for half the experience?" of course he wasn't budging. I still think it would be entertaining to attempt to barter everywhere as if I was in Africa again.."I'll give you 5.".."It's a set price".."Okay 5.50."









We decided to just show Antonio what Slide Rock looked like before heading down to Grasshopper Point to go swimming. G.P was full so we had to pull over on the side of the road and just find a spot to swim...it was pretty steep and hilarious to watch everyone try and traverse the ledge...but we were ultimately successful.

Afterwards we went to lunch at a yummy mexican restaurant and shared stories about awkward high school memories and embarrassing moments.

The most random part of the trip was when we decided to attend a Psychic Expo.


Apparently Sedona is a "vortex" which still means nothing to me if anyone could explain it..but we all went in, treating it like a joke. After signing up and deciding to go in groups of 2..our nerves started setting in. Megan said she felt really anxious and uncomfortable..I thought for a moment and said.."Oh shoot..me too." It's been so long since I've felt anxious that I forgot what it felt like, how weird is that?

Needless to say, these people take themselves very seriously. We had to flip through a book and pick the Psychic that spoke to us. I made Wilson go first, while Megan and I sat on a bench in the room--shaking from the freezing cold temperature. It was so strange to hear her talking to Wilson about his life..everything was dead on. I started getting nervous..what was she going to tell me? In my hung-over, sun-drained, food-coma'd state of mind..I just decided to grab the bull by the horns and see what would happen. I sat down and she said my aura was yellow..very creative. I told her I was a writer and she seemed really pleased by that, asking what I write about.."Relationships."

I thought I was going to get out of the experience unscathed until she asked me how I felt coming into Sedona. I had no idea how to respond so I just said "Happy?" and she smirked, pointing to the card that was upside down.."You're not in control. You hate not being in control." My hands started clinching my chair..she was calling me on it! I shrugged and said, "Yeah..that's true..." She then asked me something that rattled me, "What happened to you in highschool that changed you?" Before I could think straight I just confessed.."My relationship with my father."

I swear to you, after talking with this woman about my father, I felt like I had been beat up. Emotionally toppled over. I tried not to cry the whole time she was telling me the issues the cards said I had with my Dad (which were all painfully on point) and the worst part was that she said until I had resolution with the situation, every relationship in my life will be like receiving punches on the sore spot of the relationship with my father. She said I need to write my dad a birthday card next year and acknowledge him as my father, even if we no longer have a relationship--to reach inner peace. Wouldn't that be hypocritical? To reach out to a man that shut me out of his life? But, the truth is, I obviously haven't reached inner peace about my relationship with my Dad. The psychic was like, "You're so beautiful and joyful, but you have this dark depression." It was really hard to hear someone say that to me. She also said that I need to work on my inner child and being silly...it made me want to laugh because that is something I've been actively trying to cultivate. I am silly, I'm a total goof ball..but for 2 years I was so serious and down while dealing with my dad.

In truth, I'm just tired of dealing with it. I'd rather not deal with it or think about it. Making the effort to work through it just brings up those memories to the surface. That's why Spain was so liberating--I didn't have to deal with it in front of my face like I do here on father's day or when my dad and my brother are going on a fishing trip.

On the positive side, she said that there will be a resolution. Eventually, I will be able to look at my father and see good things in spite of all the pain he has inflicted on me. Interesting, right? Of course, this will only come after a really rough period of sorting through this.

But, seriously?

I'm tired of talking about it--but in short, the Psychics were totally dead on in dealing with all of us. Especially for Desiree. If anyone knows a gary or greg to have fun with let us know. And, of course if Rob comes back into Stephanie's life in a few weeks..well I'll have to start considering writing my Dad a birthday card. But, I'm not ready to really think of extending an olive branch to my father. The sad part is he will always be my father, but does that mean in order to reach inner peace about everything...I have to make a move instead of just closing that chapter? I wish I knew what to do...how to do it.

Alright, dulces suenos.

Friday, June 26, 2009

I could open a library.

I have way too many books. My desk is rimmed by books; they are stacked on night stands, piling up in bookshelves, and tucked away in boxes. They are bent pages, marked up with notes and pieces of paper, they are unfinished conversations between my Aunt and I. I have this untitled book, covered in floral cloth, that is a collection of William Shakespeare's sonnets. On Sonnet 18, Lenna left a note that reads, "Sonnet 18. Hate that "lose" is not spelled correctly in line 10." It made me laugh because I was just thinking that it bothered me as I skimmed the lines. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree? I talked to my Grandma this morning--she was so happy that I was going to be teaching in the United States. I took a minute to tell her thank you--for how much she had shaped my character, she really instilled an appreciation for literature and traveling in me. She does everything with a smile and puts a positive spin on any tribulation--I hope I succeed in doing the same in my own life. Remember that photo of my grandma and Lenna riding the camel in Egypt? Looking all 60s elegant, etc? Well I had to laugh when I told her I had not come close to inheriting her elegance in my own camel riding adventure




It's just an interesting time of life. To be a grown up in the process of growing up. When I was a little girl I would stare at the exotic photos of faraway lands with a wistful smile--now, I'm able to show her the pictures of my own adventures. I was always the blacksheep of my family when I was little because I was so adamant and resistant towards change and travel. I hated speaking in Spanish during dinner with Lenna--and now here I am, a Spanish teacher, writing about my haphazard excursions and getting my Masters in Education. I have to write a letter of intent for my Masters--about why I want to teach..and I have to tell you, the opening few lines will definitely be about growing up under the wings of two English Professors.

The more I think about life, the more I realize--you really never know where life will take you. Two years ago I was studying for my LSATs, thinking about fueling my writing career with some monetary backing as a divorce lawyer. That life seems so distant, so unfathomable.

I can't help but contemplate how much the people in our lives impact us. I was talking with Wilson last night, and we were just thinking about how far we'd come. When I first met Wilson, I was totally lost. But I think even from the first conversations we had, we knew we could count on each other. Here we are, 3 years later, talking for 2 hours about this crazy thing called life. I just have to tell you, I feel really lucky to have the friends that I do. We are all taking Antonio to Sedona this weekend, and I'm sure it will be a shitshow nonetheless. My friends are do'ers, I love that about them. We talk about doing something the weekend before falling asleep and make it happen the next weekend. Thank god. I'm also really excited to go out on Saturday. We all have a lot to celebrate right now and I'm sure we will do with it a vengeance.

Also, it's Nicky's first night back out on the town, so hooray and cheers to water and diet sprite :)

P.S: I just found that book, "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz..and I'm telling you..those agreements are worth a read.

Dulces Suenos

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Man's best friend.

I'm sitting here on pause. I wanted to write something to ease my mind about my dog, but..

So as I was feeling elated that I found a school that is a perfect fit for me--I am starting as a Spanish teacher at a really great k-8 school in Cave Creek..Antonio called me over because Zeus was seeming to have something like a stroke. I froze, cradling this big dog in my arms just going into Crisis mode. I told Antonio to get my shoes and Zach to grab the car keys. Zach carried Zeus into the car, in a complete panic, and we drove him to the nearest Vet clinic. I was calming my younger brother, telling him to try and speak calmly and pet Zeus. The pain twisted his face and he started to cry. As much as I wanted to start crying too, I told him it's going to be okay and found myself holding it together, somehow. I finally kind of get it--why our Moms are so calm in stressful/scary situations--it's because they are looking out for us, worrying about us before them. I didn't want my brother to get scared so I tried to stay calm. Of course, after I dropped them off in the front of the Emergency, I did the worst, most haphazard, parking job of my life and ran inside.

There's something about seeing your pet like that--I held him on the scale, studying the technicians at the vet's office--almost evaluating their capabilities. We sat in the office waiting for the doctor, three kids just crying and worrying over their pet. It occurred to me that as traumatizing as it is for me to be there, this was probably a normal spectacle for them. We also noted that their are tissues in the office, conveniently located for the heartbroken parents of pets.

I started thinking about how long we've had Zeus, he's 13 years old. We got Zeus when I was about 10 years old and he has been with me through everything. I've chased him on hot streets in the summer when he would go on a Wild Ride, pretended to be a cow girl in a hat standing over his back, dressed him up for Halloween, watched him stretch happily whenever I would stop and scratch his belly (which is about 6x a day), cried in his fur when I was sad, used him as a body pillow, caught him rolling around in my bed when he thought we weren't home, had him sit in my lap whenever I watch TV, secretly fed him scraps under the dinner table (like every member of my family)--he's been such a big part of my family, he is my family. He even has tolerated Bella joining our family..which speaks volumes to his character.

This is hard. We have these animals that are so much a part of us, and I wish they could be with us forever. The worst part is not knowing what's wrong, not knowing what they need. But just like people--their eyes are so expressive, and you know, somewhere deep inside when they are sad or happy. I hated leaving him at the emergency clinic. I hate waiting for them to call me. I hate not being able to take care of him myself. It's the helplessness that gets you. It's having to make the hard decisions.

Think good thoughts for us.

Monday, June 22, 2009

In the book of life, the answers aren't on the back.

I found this quote and it made me smile, a random quote to exemplify my mantra, "no pasa nada"

When we remember we are all mad, the mysteries disappear and life stands explained. ~Mark Twain


I think we all spend a lot of time trying to understand eachother, make sense of eachother. I do it often, especially in my writing. I think about character motivations, these carnations in the bouquet of life. But maybe, the underlying joke, has been that we cannot rationalize irrationality. "We are all mad." Don't you think? Sometimes I say things and do things and just cringe in embarrassment or scrunch my nose in regret. Is it possible, life is a series of divine accidents..a series of awkward moments? If that's true, do we just crash in and out of one another's lives? Take a minute and think about the people have influenced you, shaped you in some respect--more than likely you don't talk to those teachers or random larger than life personas. I'm thinking some people are in our lives for a time to teach us something, give us something to take with us.

Maybe it was Spain, maybe it was my being an absent minded professor, but I have not thought about my future income once. I never mentally calculated how much money I would make as a teacher, or wouldn't make, it didn't matter. It didn't and it doesn't. What I learned is that being content is much more important, if you do a job you hate for the rest of your life just to earn money--I worry about your insides, your guts. We all probably could have guessed that personal fulfillment came first for me before compensation when I changed my major to Literature. I decided to feed my mind instead of career path security. I hope you do what you love, rather, I hope you are lucky enough to find and do what you love. This is your life--what are you going to do with it?

I have my first interview tomorrow, as a Spanish teacher. I am also going to a meeting at ASU to talk about my Masters. I'm not nervous, somehow. Antonio keeps telling me, "You will not sleep tonight. I am sure." But I just shrugged, pausing while looking up at the stars and the outline of the trees against the sky--nervousness was nowhere to be found. I just felt..certain..eventually I will find my niche and end up where I am supposed to. When I had to come home from Spain in the fall, I felt like my life was stuck in first gear, little did I know that it would completely alter my experience and the people I would meet. Fortunately, I ended up teaching highschool and discovering where I really belonged. I now say "Everything happens for a reason" backed up by belief. I read Alexander Pope a few years ago, and one of his last lines is "Whatever is, is right." Think about it. I think when we are at a crossroads in our lives, we hesitate--worrying about ramifications. Sometimes in the midst of fear or sadness, we ask how we ended up here. I've thought it many times in the past, worrying..worrying..worrying. Like a book, is everything building off the preceding events to finally finish at the happy ending?

I'll admit this though, I prefer to be in control of my life. I realized recently, when I set my mind to something, when I want something, I have to get it. Maybe to a fault. I'm so stubborn, maybe so disillusioned that I refuse to even contemplate something not working out. Bull in a China shop. Flaw or Attribute? Maybe both.

My friends are all on their own life paths, some moving at a slower pace, others sprinting ahead with their finish line in sight. Some are taking a detour, others are stopping to smell the roses along the road. And me? I'm walking dreamily, having faith I'll find my way.

Sunday, June 21, 2009

stumbling upon cause and effect.

I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.

The answer is always in the entire story, not a piece of it.

Writing a story or a novel is one way of discovering sequence in experience, of stumbling upon cause and effect in the happenings of a writer’s own life. —Eudora Welt



That sequence? Appearances can be deceiving. I'm fickle. I have a story to tell but find it difficult to put the words on paper. If it takes 20 years to get this story out...I'll be pissed. I guess, in truth, right now I'm so focused on the present and reality that I have a hard time thinking about fictional things. My writing is on pause for a bit.

My head is elsewhere, but I have one thought--Wilson said that when we stop looking for love, that's when things start to happen. But I wonder, is anyone ever not deep down looking for love?

Today is Father's Day. Gets you thinking about the cookie cutter commercial father-daughter relationships. Seeing that..will never not hurt.

Maybe some wounds will never fully heal, maybe part of growing up is learning to live with the pain, instead of pretending it's not there.

Saturday, June 20, 2009

Breaking up is hard to do?

Firstly, you must know that when I came back from Spain, I was the only single girl in the group. Luckily, I had my newfound independent attitude in my back pocket. My only other single friend was MIA with Hepatitis A.

For Hep A friend's sake, who is tired of the nose scrunch and disgusted face when she answers why she can't drink alcohol for a year (yes, a year). It's serious-- we must correct a rampant misconception. Hepatitis A is nothing like Pamela Anderson's STD. Hep A is contracted via contaminated food or drinking water. Usually this is common in third world countries--but she got it in Scottsdale of all places. It's preventable via vaccine--think about the importance of hand washing and hand sanitizer.

Alright, moving on.

So I was slightly salty at the idea of being a +1 to my coupled friends. Fortunately, my friends are fantastic at juggling work, relationships, friends and family. I apologize to any of you singletons who are buddied up with PDA, repeat "we're staying in" offenders.

For my welcome home party, we hit the streets of Scottsdale with class and capers. The fact that we drove off with a gas pump is neither here nor there. Needless to say the night was epic, I had so much fun with my friends that I didn't even have time to take note of any guys in my vicinity. For one of the first times in my life I was oblivious to the rampant douchebaggery of Old Town Scottsdale. No primadonna's with over gelled hair, too tight jeans, and ridiculous shoes..because they are..caught my eye.

As I was acclimating to my grown up role as the "single friend"--something strange happened. D's boyfriend broke up with her out of nowhere. In fact, he pulled the biggest douchebag card ever, "I'm anxious and bored." My first reaction was to tell her, "He's bad in bed, has no personality, and rocks the holier than thou attitude with no goods to back it up." BUT, I opted for the more supportive, "I hated him from the beginning. You're better off." We sat at happy hour with a group of girlfriends, listening to the things we always tell eachother, "Take this time to take care of yourself and not have to worry about a guy."

We say all these things, but in truth, the brutal bottom line is that being single is a huge adjustment for a perpetual relationship person. We all agreed that waking up and going to bed are the times you feel that bittersweet ache. But I promise, being able to be on your own is the most important thing a girl can learn. That's when dating becomes on your own terms instead of haphazardly waiting for some guy to call. Nobody wants "some" guy, it's better to wait for "the" guy. No asshole, co-dependent, baby talking, cheap guys need apply when you're content on your own. God I have somehow managed to sound like an angry girl anthem. I literally mean nothing bad by it or have any bitterness towards guys, just "those" guys.

The real shocker is just a couple days later, my other friend was broken up with abruptly. So what's going on? When did it become okay to break up with someone out of nowhere? Don't make anniversary plans you don't intend to keep.

We're big girls now, understanding feelings change, things change..and some people NEVER change.

So here is some break up etiquette:

1. Don't be an asshole
2. Don't do it over text message or e-mail
3. Don't sleep with them within a week of a breakup..shady.
4. Don't mention ice cream.
5. Don't pull the friend's card. Nobody wants to be your friend right after a break up.
6. Don't pull the ever seductive disappearing act (I'm guilty of that too, we all are).
7. Bestfriends are off limits.

That's all I can think of for now..let me know if you have any more break up rules to enlighten the population.

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Addicted

I, Courtney Elizabeth Emert-Taylor, am a bona fide spinning addict.

It all started a week and a half ago when I kicked my gym routine into high gear. Needless to say it was humbling at first, It's not easy to explain why you haven't worked out in 6 months to people who are paid to work out. Humbling.

My favorite work out fanatic quote from this week is from my second spinning instructor, "You eat like crap, you look like crap." One woman even confessed to putting butter on her salmon. I made brownies the night before.

Just a heads up.

Saturday, June 13, 2009

“You live like this, sheltered, in a delicate world, and you believe you are living. Then you read a book(Lady Chatterley, for instance), or you take a trip, or you talk with Richard, and you discover that you are not living, that you are hibernating. The symptoms of hibernating are easily detectable: first, restlessness. The second symptom(when hibernating becomes dangerous and might degenerate into death): absence of pleasure. That is all. It appears like an innocuous illness. Monotony, boredom, death. Millions live like this(or die like this) without knowing it. They work in offices. They drive a car. They picnic with their families. They raise children. And then some shock treatment takes place, a person, a book, a song, and it awakens them and saves them from death."

“Even if all these needs are satisfied, we may still often, if not always, expect that a new discontent and restlessness will soon develop, unless the individual is doing what he is fitted for. A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet”


..........will this feeling pass?

Peace Core? Teach abroad in Chile? Stay? Go? Argh.

In the universe, there are things that are known, and things that are unknown, and in between, there are doors

It is not the going out of port, but the coming in, that determines the success of a voyage.


Nicky believes that God has a plan for all of us. Since I'm not really religious..I take her word for it. I'm just trying to get an idea of where I belong. It's occurring to me that maybe I don't belong here anymore. It makes me feel guilty to feel like I don't belong at "home" but it's been bubbling under the surface for awhile.

Remember way back when, when I was thinking of Peace Core? Well, we have come full circle back to it. Peace core is for 27 months. From application it takes about 9 months to get going.

I'm aware that I shouldn't make any big decisions right now while I'm transitioning--but why is it all my big ideas right now revolve around teaching/volunteering abroad?

Maybe I'll find a great school here and I'll be content--but tonight, my thoughts are somewhere else. Far away.

Friday, June 12, 2009

See ya jet lag.

I woke up this morning and actually felt awake, I'm slowly adjusting to life at home again. People move a little faster, talk a little mumbled, and drive a little crazier.

I'm evaluating where I am and trying to decide what I want out of my life. Chile is a big option. This is the first time i'm not tied down to anyone or anything in my life. I'm anxious to start teaching..but I'm missing adventures abroad. Maybe this restlessness will pass, vamos a ver. I'm just grateful, after everything, I discovered how much I love teaching. When I was on the rat race mission to get my certification yesterday--I can't tell you how many times people said, "You don't look like a high school teacher." It's funny where life takes you.

Likewise, just a little thought. I have to believe that love is out there. I refuse to accept the notion that 'the big love' is just a dream and reality is finding someone that is stable, family oriented, and kind. I'm in no hurry to find it, likewise i'm in no hurry to settle while I wait, either.

Friday, June 5, 2009

You just have to laugh

It’s kind of funny. In fact, it’s really funny. I’ve come full circle--my welcome home wouldn’t have been complete without an unscheduled travel disaster. The difference, not only did I make lemonade, I made a full on lemonade cocktail.
Let me back up.
So, Wednesday was a roller coaster of emotions. I had my last day at the highschool, shed some tears, said some goodbyes, and left with 2 bottles of Spanish wine...in a bag. Of course, I tried to bottle up all my emotions, sucking in deep breaths of shaky air, blinking back tears. Upon my final goodbye, I extended cards that were written thoughtfully, I hugged tightly, blinked back tears ineffectively, and hurried down the stairs--counting 1 to 10. It’s going to be okay, you’re okay.
I have never walked faster back to my apartment, ever. Once I was in my room, I closed the door behind me, laid down on the bed, looked out the window, and cried. I cried because I couldn’t pretend this adventure only needed to be closed with a smile, it needed genuine feeling too. I will miss you; these exotic places, warm faces, starry nights, running in fields of grass as tall as me, and standing awestruck before things that made me feel small. You have changed me--me de volvio la vida. Thank you. Muchisima gracias.
I went to Cordoba with Maria--a final haphazard Spanish excursion. We went to the mechanic to get her windshield wipers fixed; we stepped out of the car and the necks snapped to attention for a onceover, Rafa came roaring up on his motorbike (mullet flowing behind him) and screeched to a hault, rough housing briefly with the drunk man offering his services (all of them) to Maria. The head mechanic said he could fix them tomorrow, then Maria explained she wanted to have new ones in case it rained on the way to Cordoba--he said in that case, head over to the other Mechanic shop--Chumi (which Maria informed me also means pussy..awkward fun fact) if we wanted them done today. No pasa nada on getting business. We went to Chumi, got them fixed and sped onto the open road.
The rain had passed, the sun was shining, and we were out of gas. We made it about 5 minutes before rolling into Almodovar (the next town with that amazing castle I look at everyday). An elderly woman sweeping advised us the gas station actually wasn’t in the town but along the freeway. She said she didn’t know how to explain or give us directions. We smiled and pulled away before flagging down two men leaving the tennis courts--they gave us better directions and sure enough we made it to the gas station just in time. CONVENIENTLY located between two massive sunflower fields. I darted out of the car, ran across the highway, and snapped photos of the sunflowers. Sometimes, if you’re very lucky, bad luck leads you to a field of sunflowers. Sunday adventure..complete.
We went shopping, talked about life and love, shared a croissant and coke, before going back to Posadas to have dinner with Alfredo at..where else..Bar San Francisco. We originally wanted Pizza..but the two pizzerias are closed randomly on Wednesday. Paco was gracious as ever, making croquetas even though they weren’t on the menu, and supplying plates of plenty for my last Spanish meal. Maria laughed as Paco and I exchanged sincere goodbyes and thank yous, she said “He’s like your father!” Paco, the happiest man in Posadas. A small celebrity in my life.
For our goodbye, the one I was least looking forward to, I extended Maria brownies, gave her a big, long hug, and we said “See you soon.” I bounced back up the stairs at 1am, not crying, but smiling--content and excited. I took the longest hot shower I’ve ever had in Posadas, I waited to for the cold water to come--it never did. That’s when I started thinking this might be too easy, to be true. I finished packing, and watched an episode of Sex and the City before deciding at 3:45 to get two steps ahead by lugging my massive suitcases down the 3 flights of stairs to the front entrance of the apartment building (so Antonio and I wouldn’t have to do it at 4am).
It was probably quite a sight, as of the airport check in, my big bag was 74 pounds. The smaller one probably 50 lbs. Not to mention, my traveler’s back pack that is up to my stomach placed beside me, and of course, my laptop shoulder bag..topped with blankie and my favorite pillow. Eventually, after stumbling down in the dark (the lights were on a timer and my hands were full), I had broken a sweat and leaned against my pile--independence.., check.
I gave more brownies to Antonio’s father for taking me to the Seville airport; a man you can tell knows how to have a good laugh. Neither of them were as tired as I was, the Spanish are wired differently, and Antonio had stayed up late studying anyway. We ate the brownies and drove to Seville in the dark, driving towards the sunrise.
We arrived to the airport at 5:15 am. My flight was set to leave at 7:15. After a few travel hiccups (including having to pick up my bags in Portugal and re check-in with U.S. Airways..150 pounds of luggage...yikes). I tried to argue but eventually found myself surrendering, doing the double-cheek kiss “hasta pronto” and struggling to make it through security. I trodded passed puertas 1-7, when I saw her. The unhelpful lady from check-in..”Sorry..the flight was cancelled.” I stared, dead pan. The world stopped moving. “Cancelled?”, “Yes, you need to go down to the first floor and pick up your bags, then come back in to get re-scheduled.” I sighed, putting my weight on one leg..”I’m not going to the United States today, am I?” She shrugged uncomfortably, waving as I stood there--no homecoming? No glorious return? It can never be that easy, can it?”
I called Antonio, it was ironic because I had just been telling him I was praying my flight went off without problems..being the queen of travel complications. They drove back to meet me, to make sure I was getting on a flight--the flight was at 2pm, the next morning flight would be on the 13th of June. I think not. So my choice was to stay in a hotel in Portugal, and then try and figure out my next flights to the United States from Portugal. Portuguese. I think not. I pulled out whatever determination was left, argued with her until I was blue in the face, called the airline..”Sorry, our travel arrangement office is closed.” Que fuerte. I sat--trying to accept the idea that I would be in Posadas again that day as Antonio told me not to worry his Mom was making up a bed for me already. I sighed, looking around me, more goodbyes? No puedo. It sounds strange, but I couldn’t go back--I wanted to go forward. Always moving forward. Even if that means going to another country, not speaking the language, and hoping somehow the travel gods will smile upon you.
5 minutes before the 2pm flight took off, U.S Airways caved in and let me switch my flights without fees and I would be taking the 10:35 flight to Philadelphia from Lisbon, then 3 hours later onto Phoenix. Almost the same as was originally planned after I got there. I had my tentative, shaky travel plans written on a piece of paper by TAP. Antonio stayed until I went through security (1 PM this time) after we had been talking, drinking coffee, and babbling about our future adventures when it comes to the United States. I can’t wait. He was my guardian angel before I left, buena gente to the fullest.
After we landed in Portugal on the smallest, smallest, tiniest, plane I’ve ever been on--a group of us were standing down at the baggage claim, I laughed and said..”I’m not counting on my bags making it..it’s that kind of day.” Somehow, 5 other Americans were on my flight--and we were all heading home after long journeys..Jess and Katie had stayed in the airport over night (Which kicks you out from 1:00-4:30..how horrible?!). A couple from California, the girl had just finished her study abroad in Sevilla and her boyfriend who came to backpack, 2 other teachers from my Program, and another girl who had moved to Spain permanently and had a job in an after school program. We bonded together and traversed the pseudo chaos of the Portugal airport, 3 hours later, sharing cabs to the airport hotel. We decided to go walking around the city instead of sleeping--might as well make the most of it. We shared stories about our excursions, room mates, schools, and lives at home. We all forgot we were stuck there, feeling like we were on a weekend trip with our good friends--it was the oddest thing how well we all got along.
The streets of Portugal are original, all the way down to the groundwork--uneven black cobble stones, narrow streets, and unique characters passing by you. Music surrounds you around every other corner, from folk singers to orchestras playing outside an expensive restaurant. The streets are like San Francisco, and we got an unwelcome leg workout after carrying our bags all day. It’s a different language, but it’s like being dropped into a mix of cultures. It has elements of Paris, London, Greece and Morocco. Difficult to explain, but worth experiencing. The hotel had wifi so I was able to skype my mom finally and tell her I had made it to Portugal but wouldn’t be coming home. She said to have fun and do some sight seeing, home would be waiting tomorrow--like mother like daughter?
By the time we crawled back into our hotel rooms after an unexpectedly elegant dinner, I found myself lulling off to sleep, happy, with memories of the travel disruption and stress forgotten. It felt like I would be going back to Posadas after a weekend trip instead of moving home. Dreams of Lisbon’s ocean view were interrupted as people started making lots of noise in the hallway, yelling and clamoring around. I tried to ignore the sounds, and eventually whipped off the covers, stomped to the door, and said “POR FAVOR! SILENCIO!” I laughed to myself when I laid back in bed--I had reprimanded them in Spanish..not English.
I woke up to tired eyes, a drag in my step, and a giant body ache. I put on my upbeat playlist and took a long shower without worrying about a blast of cold water. We went down to breakfast, ate quickly, and then went back to our rooms to grab our bags. Jess and I teamed up to help eachother. I stood waiting,after she had taken the first set down the elevator, for 20 minutes, waiting for an un-full elevator. There was a French tour group of atleast 100, who stared at me like I was the devil when the doors popped open and I was leaning against my bags. The doors were abruptly shut thereafter.
Finally I made it downstairs, pushing the bags in front of me like two baby strollers, awkwardly. The man laughed, “Is your life in here or what?” I smiled and said..”Basically.”
So, in short, I made it towards the next leg of the journey. I’m in the sky, staring out over the choppy ocean. I’m not nervous, stressed, or afraid. I’m just looking forward to the next adventure, oddly that adventure is home. The girls shared my sentiments about going home--but just like the rest of these past months, I’m going to take it on with a smile, figure it out as I go, and just do the best I can.
I can’t wait to see you. Thanks for supporting me in all this--listening when I was worried and shaken, for understanding me when I wanted to leave, for giving that little push of confidence when I needed it, and for welcoming me back home. I’m thankful, for having people in my life that have a knowing look, a hand to hold, and familiar smiles. Love you, te quiero. And oh my goodness..see you soon!

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Funny the way it is

If someone would have told me, that I’d be curled up in bed, staring out over farm fields, crying---I wouldn’t have believed you. This is really hard; I was doing so well and then, these emotions, they just couldn’t be packed up neatly like my things.
I know I can’t stay here, I know it, but it doesn’t make it any easier. Life is simpler here, uncomplicated. No one is weighing me down, no problems are chasing me, no heartache is eating away at me. I’m free here. Free. Light. I don’t want to give that up.
I wish you were here, I need that look.
Home seems foggy right now. I keep trying to envision getting off the plane, but I can’t. It bothers me that I can’t imagine home. I keep asking myself the same question, will I be able to go back? Go back...and be happy? It scares me that I don’t know.
I guess it’s because I was in a different state of things when I left, and now I feel really, painfully, genuinely happy. So happy I’m afraid it’ll be taken away. I’m having a moment of fear. I know it’s just a moment, I believe that.
How, how did home become a question mark? I’m nervous. Ashamed that I’m nervous because I know the people I love more than anything are waiting for me. I think once I hear your voices, these fears will go away. It’s hard, not hearing you when I need some reassurance. Home, a hand over mine.
I’m exhausted from goodbye...in desperate need of a hello and a familiar smile.

PS: Don’t hold this against me when I’m smiling so much my face hurts on Saturday.

PPS : I know that I should be embracing my new calm, collected Spanish alter ego. Happy and grateful for this opportunity--looking forward to the unknown and all the wonderful parts about going home. I write it and I feel slightly better, now if I could just believe it. Leaving would be so much easier if I didn’t have to do the goodbyes. Those are the worst. I need to hit the ground running, smiling while I’m at it.

Monday, June 1, 2009




Radiating happiness.--We had a surprise going away party during break and I couldn’t stop smiling. I was surprised when the tears didn’t start falling--I thought it would be really, really, sad to say goodbye--but I found myself smiling because this experience has been the best time of my life. I have no regrets--I really lived here. I looked around at all the faces of the teachers and I was just incredibly grateful to know them, to have shared this period of time with them. They’re amazing people..and really wonderful teachers. I hope to be as good as they are someday.
So, instead of focusing on the sadness of leaving, I’m focusing on the gratefulness I’m feeling. I feel so blessed to have had this experience--me trajo a la vida. It brought me back to life. Spain, them, this. I’m coming home with a big smile on my face, a skip in my step, and Andalucian warmth in my soul.
I’ve learned something from each teacher at the school. Juan Manuel, I will think of your smile when I’m struggling and tell myself, “No pasa nada.” Pilar, whose confident stride puts me at ease, because of you, all this was possible, there are no words to convey my gratitude to you. Maria Bravo, your elegance and strength have inspired me, a palpable presence in every room you enter. Laura, your beauty is second only to your inner beauty, you radiate sunshine, thank you for shining beside me for these last months. Eli--your laughter is ointment to the soul, thank you for teaching me the infamous Spanish “tsk, tsk”--your vivacious spirit is contagious. Maria Jose, you have taught me grace--your patience and tranquility in the classroom is remarkable--I’ll never know how you do it.
Thank you--for showing me the Andalucian spirit. I will never be the same, you have bettered me, challenged me, and taught me. Most of all, you have inspired me. You’ve been angels to me and I’m forever grateful. I carry your heart, I carry it in my heart.
“Pa’ Siempre”

Sunday, May 31, 2009

Tick Tock.

Can I fast forward to landing in Phoenix? I hate this limbo. Hate it. I can’t sleep, and I have to admit to myself it’s because I’m anxious--anxious to leave, anxious to stay. I should be exhausted--I walked miles in the blazing heat to a sunflower field, it was random, but an experience nonetheless. Afterwards, I walked up to the Sierrezuela, baked brownies, got a pizza to go, and watched an episode of The Office with Will in the one room with air conditioning.

Currently, I’m hot and uncomfortable in bed.

I can’t sleep, at all. I tried putting in ear plugs, shutting all my blinds, closing my lap top, etc. Nothing works. I watched a lizard crawl across the wall on the building across from me for atleast 5 minutes, when I realized not being able to sleep is my biggest pet peeve.

At night, you see the strangest things. Last night, I saw my neighbor tossing and turning in his bed--I felt like a total creeper, but his light was on and he is literally right across from me. Alright, no excuses, that was creeper of me. It got me thinking about who can see into my window. I never thought about it before.

I guess I want to know what lies ahead. Who lies ahead. What does the world have in store for me? These questions..these are the questions that make me toss and turn. Tick, Tock, the clock is running out.



The grand essentials for happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.

Saturday, May 30, 2009

Cold Showers..check.

Well, I’ve discovered the key to enjoying a cold shower--an unbearably hot run through the middle of nowhere. There is a makeshift running path (made by tractor wheels) that starts along the train tracks, I’ve stared at it from the bridge above, thinking how nice it would be to literally run in the middle of nowhere. Just heading towards the horizon. So, today, I decided to try and figure out how to find the road from the train tracks, stumbled upon it, and did it.
It was a little shifty at first, I ran passed the abandoned electricity building and under the bridge along the tracks--nobody to be found, no sign of life. The old train tracks ran to the right of the new ones, overgrown and aged--I want to go back and a take a picture before I leave.
Per usual, I selected the worst time of day to go running, around 2:30 pm. The heat was unbelievable, it was equivalent to Arizona in the summer. I didn’t bother bringing a water because my run was kind of spontaneous, but as my feet kicked up the dirt behind me and the sun beat down on my shoulders, none of it mattered because I felt like I was off on my own, an afternoon adventure. It sounds weird, but I wanted it to be hard, the heat was welcome. I ran on that path today instead of on my usual route because I wanted to be alone. Like tonight, I want to just go somewhere and sit--to think. But I can’t, because there isn’t really anywhere I can go and hide in Posadas--the drawback of a small town. So I’m sitting in my half packed room, overheating and over thinking things.
I know it comes off as if I’m disconcerted about coming home--but sometimes I get so excited thinking about it that I don’t think I can wait another 3 days. One word, Bella. On the other hand, I feel like I could stay in Spain forever, atleast part of me could.
Yesterday I went to Feria with Nick. He’s teaching little kids in Jaen area. He was showing me photos of his classes and talking about his students--it was really sweet and funny. He did a crazy amount of traveling, 13 countries in 9ish months. He’s going to come back next year, but doesn’t know where exactly in Andalucia he’ll be--I envy him in some ways, for staying, but his experience was a little different than mine. He was the only foreign teacher at his school and was embraced by the local families--I told him I think Posadas is a little more closed than his town. Although all the people are really nice, I’ve never felt that either Will or I are apart of the town. We enjoy it and have fun with the students, but it’s not been made a home. Feria was really interesting but soooooooooooooooo hot. We ended up doing the spanish version of the log ride (confident with both contracted hepatitis from the dirty ride water lol) but it was fun and random. Definitely worth seeing.
I’m starting to mentally prepare myself for the big journey home, both the physical and emotional aspects. I’m not as sad to leave as I was a couple days ago, I’m ready to see my friends and my family. Phone calls...going out..can’t think about it--I still have a couple days to go.
Oh, by the way, the mystery of last night’s insomnia has been solved--I took excedrin migraine and it has a good amount of caffeine per pill..thus, I’m hoping considering the 3 hours of sleep I got last night that tonight I’ll be able to fall asleep. I’m taking the first train to Cordoba and then taking the bus from the Alcazar to the Medina (Either at 10 or 11), kind of strange because I am going by myself--I used to hate even waiting infront of a movie theatre for people. Strange.

Friday, May 29, 2009

On Change.

There are so many quotes regarding relationships, questioning the ability of people to change.
“You can’t change a man.”
“Some people never change.”
“You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.”

But, as a former skeptic, I’ve converted into a pseudo-believer. We have a tendency to freeze a memory of people we know--holding it to be the truth. People I knew 10 years ago, I still imagine to be the same, with the same characteristics, same drawbacks. Then I meet them, the person they are now. I think that’s one of the downfalls of relationships that start when we are young. Not all of us, but some of us change. Or rather, life changes us.
I think part of my naivete diminished when I lost my first loved one--something about death coming to your doorstep, alters you. To know that level of loss exists, modifies your outlook on relationships and life. Likewise, when you get your first tastes of independence, betrayal or heartbreak. I asked before whether it was possible to get the wisdom without making the mistakes--but I think it’s not always necessarily in the lessons, it’s in the experiences themselves. It’s the feelings that accompany the tribulations, getting a taste of something you love or loathe.
Example, I’m single--but I’m happier than I’ve been in a long time. I’d even argue, I’m not single--I’m untroubled. I’m taking timeout, being alone is easier--making decisions in my best interest and not in the interest of two. There comes a time in your life, where you just need to be first. I’ve been a perpetual dater since 15. I think the longest I had been single in my life was a week, it sounds crazy but I was the Queen of Back-Up dating. Kenny questioned this turnaround, a believer in the no-change character policy, but I thought for a minute and then said..”It’s not that I’ve changed, It’s that I’ve grown up.” Maybe people don’t change overnight, but I’ve got to believe we learn from our mistakes, learn about ourselves, and become better. We take what wasn’t working before and fix it.
I was talking with Eli about life, and I shared with her something my mom told me a few months ago, “It’s one of the important lessons in life--to learn the difference between solitude and loneliness. There will be times in your life where you just need to be alone, whatever the reasons may be. Independence and strength, you find them in solitude.” Six months ago, I wouldn’t have understood it. Now, It’s the reality of things.
It’s interesting--Arizona is the beginning, Spain is middle, and then the original beginning becomes the ending. To go back to the same place, same people, same things..but not be the same person. I confided in Eli about this secret fear I’ve been harboring--what if, going home, means going back to old habits? I worry that being away from the presence of my Dad allowed me to be free of that weight, in closer proximity, will I feel it? The wiser part of me says no..it’s not the physical distance, it’s the emotional distance I’ve established that makes the real difference. I hope someday I can forgive my father, but I think that will take some more understanding--that, I haven’t been able to manage yet. The one thing I will say is that I left on unsure footing, but go back with a steadier step--and that’s comforting for now.


Later that night...

I miss air conditioning. I can’t sleep, the temperature in my bedroom is too uncomfortable. Bats are circling my window. The silver lining of the heat induced insomnia is that I can see the stars clearly--the sky is a deep midnight blue dotted with glistening silver specks. I tried to mentally memorize it. It’s so late that even the mesoncito is quiet..the only sound is the occasional passing of a train. I’ve never left my blinds open at night--it’s a strange thing to see, these bats whirring by at high speed. I slid the door that goes out onto my balcony shut, just to ensure no bats fly into my bedroom--that would be total chaos.
I hate not being able to sleep. At a certain hour in the night, you just have to accept that you won’t be sleeping. I tried to be productive, doing crunches and seeing how many push ups I could do. I read my Andalucia guide book and decided to go to the Medina on Sunday morning. I just realized I need to double check the train times on Sunday, to make sure I can get there by 10:30 am. Luckily, as it is ungodly late I have plenty of time to get up and check it.

Thursday, May 28, 2009

To my beloved

Dearest Kenny--

“Some people are settling down, some people are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies.”

Keep it classy. Keep your pants up. And set your standards high.

Sincerely,

Courtney Elizabeth

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Chapter 12 (work in progress..probably lots of typos)

There is something about 3 p.m. In the desert--people stay indoors, shut in. For me, I usually do my longest, hardest, runs at this hour. The heat permeates off the pavement, you can see it, bubbling up like steam from a pot. The hour between 3 and 4 is the best time of day--the streets are quiet, for the first time all afternoon you’re enveloped by quiet. I wiped the sweat off my brow, calmed by the rhythmic sound of our feet touching the ground. I saw the gate ahead, starting to close, in unison we completed our daily run with a sprint--Bachi breathed heavy at my side as we darted through the gate of the townhouses just as it was shutting.
Bachi tugged anxiously ahead of me, recovered from our run, but ready for his lunch. “Okay, Okay, one minute. We need to get the mail first.” I could see the mail starting to pile up in my box, I sighed--still catching my breath, unlocking it and taking the stack of miscellaneous letters. I never bothered to go through them before carrying them upstairs, it was always the same--ads, my subscription to various magazines, bills, etc. Bachi was pulling hard at his leash, bounding up the stairs to the front door. I trailed behind wistfully, still thinking about Nick. I tried to imagine who I would rather be coming home to--Nick or Jason. Both had their flaws, but both had something about them too. Nick drew me in like a moth to a light. Why wasn’t the memory of the burn enough to keep me away? I had to have evolved beyond a moth.
I opened the refrigerator taking a big slug of my Evian water. I never really cared about name brands or anything like that, but I loved the wrapper. My father used to tell me, “spend money on anything that makes you happy” and at this point, water bottle wrappers do the job. Sad or Simple, I’m not sure. I looked down at Bachi who sat attentively on his heels, eyeing the water ruthlessly, his mouth shut in concentration.
“Are you hot, Bachi?!” I teased, leaning down and rubbing his sides vigorously before moving underneath his chin. He whined happily, rolling over onto his back, his legs sticking up. Dogs were so easy to please, all he wanted was a little love, some good food, and long walks. I pulled his water dish towards us and poured the rest of the Evian inside, “You’re spoiled Bachi, very spoiled,” I smiled, watching him lap up the water happily. My phone started buzzing on the counter and I jumped in surprise. I grabbed it, “Hello?”
“Delaney?” An unfamiliar voice inquired.
“This is she.”
“It’s Kevin, the owner of the bar you hate.”
I laughed, “I hadn’t expected you to actually call, doesn’t that go against bar dating ethics?”
“Well, your eyes made me want to bend those rules a little bit. How are you?”
Cliche. Very Cliche, “That’s a line I’ve never heard before. I’m good..and you?”
There was a brief pause, “Good, now that I’m talking to you.” I could hear the smile in his voice, “Have you heard that line before?”
I laughed, “So you’re that guy? Not sure I can go out with that guy.”
“Ha, that guy? No. Kevin Reese. The one and only.”
I raised an eyebrow, cocky. “Well, Kevin Reese, the one and only, what do you want? I’m in the middle of something,” I lied, staring down at Bachi who was anxiously awaiting his treat. I walked to the pantry, Bachi stood behind me, licking the trickle of sweat that ran down the back of my calves, I shooed him off, not wanting dog slobber in addition to the hour long run’s sweat.
“What are you in the middle of?”
“Very important things.”
“You sound out of breath..been saving the orphans?”
I ignored his comment, opening the bag of dog treats, “If feeding my dog counts, yes.”
He laughed, “What kind of dog is it? I didn’t take you for a dog person.”
I paused, not sure if that was really a compliment, “Well, he’s big..kind of a golden retriever, lab, kind of dog.” Bachi took the treat from my hands, tired of waiting, and trotted off to indulge himself on his big bed in the sun spot.
“Really? Are you sure it’s not some tiny ass dog that you carry in your purse?”
I smirked, thinking back to the woman stuffing her poodle in her purse, “Can’t say that I am. Anyway, enough about my dog, what do you want?” I said, I didn’t feel like having a long drawn out conversation.
“You. Maybe dinner.”
Both my eyebrows raised, “God, you’re forward. Do you have an off button?”
He laughed, “I’m kidding, but I would like to take you to dinner.”
I shifted my weight. Nick..Jason..Jason..Nick...men were overcomplicating my life as it is. I looked over to Bachi, and then around the sterile apartment.
“It can’t be that hard of a decision. I’m a fun guy, free dinner..what’s there to think about?”
I smiled, rolling my eyes, “Okay, sure. When did you have in mind?”
“Tonight.”
“Tonight? You know you’re supposed to ask a girl out 3 days in advance.”
“Maybe that guy does, but me, I’m taking a risk. Maybe I can’t wait 3 days to see you.”
“You’re laying it on thick.”
“Is it working?”
“Ugh, you’re incorrigible.”
He mimicked me, “Ugh, you’re using words elderly women use.”
I laughed, “Now you’re insulting me?”
“Easy target.” I could tell he was grinning.
I nodded, that was true. I sighed, I knew that Kevin was different from other guys I had dated, but not in a good way. Normally, I avoided guys like that as if they had the plague. If a guy was this smooth and forward on the phone, imagine how many girls he was practicing with. The rational part of me said no, the lonely part said yes.
“Just say yes.”
I bit my lip, take a risk, “Fine. What time?”
“7.”
“But that’s like an hour from now.”
“How long does it take you to get ready? Can’t take you that long, you’re beautiful.”
I laughed, thinking I had been secretly wanting to pick the perfect outfit and take my time getting ready. “I move slow.”
“I’ll let it go this time..7:30.”
“Deal.”
“Where?”
“Can’t tell.”
“And, why not?” I asked, hurrying to the bathroom to turn on the water. An hour and half didn’t give me much time to paint my nails, style my hair, pick out a killer outfit, and well..accomplish total physical perfection.
“Gotta keep that air of mysterious, element of surprise.”
I laughed, “Well, should I dress casual or what?”
“Whatever you want.”
I rolled my eyes, guys never got it. Women can’t just wear whatever they wanted--we have to plan an outfit according to the activity. If I’m going to the movies, jeans and a cute blouse do the trick, if we were going to a nice dinner--heels and a summer dress would be better. We need to know these things, trust me.
“Okay I give up,” I surrendered. I gave him the directions to my townhouse and hung up the phone. I raced back to the bathroom, throwing my clothes off as I went, time definitely wasn’t on my side. I let the conditioner sit on my hair, debating whether or not to shave my legs. I had just shaved yesterday, but what if he went to brush my leg and they weren’t as smooth as normal? But, it was our first date, what would he be doing touching my legs? Shoot. I decided it was better safe than sorry and shaved everything, lathering myself up in my coconut body wash afterwards. I smothered my skin in the lotion companion to my body wash, letting my hair air dry while I did my make up.
After I had finished styling my hair, leaving the rollers on the back to give my hair extra volume, my nerves started getting the best of me. I had somehow managed to start sweating, rushing to get ready. I looked at the clock by my bed, 6:45. I put my iPod in the speaker system, turning up The Darkness. I shimmied back to my bedroom, rough housing with Bachi along the way, belting the words to “I Believe in a Thing Called Love.” Nerves, forgotten. I danced inside my closet, pointing to my dresses as if they were an audience. I selected a strapless white cotton dress that outlined my body and gave me subtle cleavage. I slipped my silver sandals that buckled around my ankle from the shoe rack, tossing them by the bedroom door and put on matching accessories. Very casual, but very bohemian sexy. I managed a rocker guitar move as I snatched my creamy leather shoulder tote, putting all the necessities--sweet non-sticky lip gloss just in case we kissed, a tiny perfume, spearmint gum, hair tie, and comb--in the bag. I stood in front of the mirror, inspecting myself carefully--not a hair out of place. You know those days where you just look pretty? Well this was one of those rare perfect days. I was glowing, maybe the endorphins were still going from the afternoon run. I looked at the clock 7:15. What was I forgetting? Something was missing but I couldn’t figure it out. I moved around the apartment, tidying things up, singing to Bachi at the refrain. He tolerates my eccentricities, and I think he has a performer inside him as well because he was running around the house, getting low on all fours, wanting to play. I sprayed some Febreze, spraying it in unison with the backbeat. I gained momentum and then slid across the floor, spraying it behind me. I put the Febreze back on the shelf in my closet,
“Is it just me or am I all on my own again?!”
I sang, shutting the door behind me. I stopped in front of the vanity, putting on my deodorant, raising the roof while I waited for it to try--nothing worse than when it somehow manages to clump. These are the moments I’m glad I live alone, if anyone saw me performing my get-ready dance routine; I’d be single for-ev-er. I spritzed my neck and wrists with perfume, then spraying it into the air, I stepped under the mist. My mother used to do that, and I always thought it looked so elegant. The knock at the door brought me back to reality--shit! I looked at the clock, 7:24, he was early. You don’t want a guy to be really late, but you don’t want him to be early either. I listened to the music blasting from iPod, frozen. The opening guitar riffs of “One way ticket” were echoing throughout the apartment. I slid to the front door, opening it, as the refrain started playing, “my heart was under attack, one way ticket to hell and back.”
My breath caught in my throat. He was propped against the doorway, one arm resting against the door jam. He was wearing medium wash jeans with a nice leather belt, a white polo that hung loosely on his muscled frame and converse. His eyes were an incredible green, looking me over, pulling his hand to his heart, “Wow, that’s quite a dress.” I smiled, opening the door while Bachi rushed out from behind me to jump up on Kevin. “Bachi!” I yelled, tugging him backwards, “I’m so sorry, I didn’t teach him manners.” I laughed. Kevin laughed too, much to my relief, patting Bachi comfortably. His eyes moved around my apartment, inspecting things critically, I rushed over to the iPod to turn it off. It was just Kevin, me, and Bachi in the quiet of the apartment.
“You like the 80’s?”
“Oh,” I laughed nervously, “It’s not 80’s..it’s The Darkness.”
“Sounds like the 80’s. Nice socks by the way.”
That was what I had forgotten. I looked down at my hot pink and turquoise socks. I laughed, sitting down on the couch, tugging them off and putting them into a ball. Although my feet were now baby smooth from soaking in lotion, my sexy persona was obliterated. I looked up at him, he smiled and said “Don’t worry, I won’t tell anyone.” His eyes sparkled, offering his hand to pull me up off the couch. He did so, effortlessly, I fell into his chest. He looked down at me, it felt like I had hit a wall. He put his finger underneath my chin and leaned down to kiss me. When his lips hit mine, I felt a surge of electricity tingling my lips. My brain told me to pull away and be a lady, my body told me to take his clothes off. I groaned in defeat, pushing him away breathlessly, “Now, now. Slow down.” I laughed, putting my shoes on, trying to come back down from the clouds.
He smiled, staring over at me. I couldn’t figure him out--he was so sexy, but he was fun too. I liked that he gave me a hard time instead of just bending over backwards to make me feel like I was a perfect creature. Does that make sense? You know when a guy basically worships you? I hate that. I’m far from perfect and will be the first to admit it. There’s nothing wrong with accepting my flaws, finding me lovable, but don’t make me seem infallible--because I’m not.
I stood back up after fastening my sandals. He towered over at me, I mentally noted I should have worn pumps with my dress.
“How tall are you anyway?”
“6’5.”
6’5” inches of perfection, luckily I managed to conceal my delight. I loved tall men, there is nothing sexier than being with a man who can man handle you. I shook my head, shaking away the thoughts, putting my purse on. I stood at the door, he was busy playing with Bachi.
“I love your dog, what’s his name again?”
“Bachi.”
“As in the ball?”
I shrugged, “He was a gift from some family friends.”
“You didn’t change his name?”
“I don’t believe in changing people.” I said nonchalantly, picking the keys up off the rack between the kitchen and living room.
He smirked, “But it’s a dog.”
I shrugged again, “I think he’s more like a person than a dog.”
Kevin stared down as Bachi rolled around on his back, treat hanging out of his mouth happily. “Huh.” was all he managed.
He followed me down the stairs, “My car’s the black one on the right.”
He had parked next to my white BMW, which unfortunately was practically diagonal in the spot. If I had been trying to get into my car, I wouldn’t have been able to open the driver’s side door. He had managed to park his Range Rover inches from mine. That guy would drive a Range Rover.
“Yeah, that guy took up like 2 spaces, I had to wedge in because there weren’t any open spaces.” I crinkled my nose, why hadn’t I parked in my garage? Now he knew I couldn’t park. I opted not to say anything, hoping to put off any more embarrassment.
“Sorry, just wait while I back out.” He said, brushing my back as he walked passed. I smiled as he craned his neck out the window as he reversed, “How am I doing?”
He was cutting it close, the worst part was that he was cutting it close to my car. I sucked in air as he reversed cautiously. This was ridiculous. As he was about to scrape my car I said “Stop!”
He looked out the window at me, “Too close?”
I ran up the driver side window, “Confession. It’s my car. I’m going to move it. Just stay where you are.” Before he had time to make a comment, I climbed in my car through the passenger side window and reversed out, pulling it into the garage. I shut the garage door and jumped over the sensor--far from graceful. I opened the driver said door and hopped into the passenger seat, he stared at me with a smirk on his lips. “So far, not impressed with your music, socks, or driving.”
I smirked, “Well, then it can only go up from here.”
He laughed, I realized we were heading to an area of town I wasn’t very familiar with, “Where are we going?”
“Surprise.”
“Hmm...you’re full of surprises.”
He smiled widely, “First, how hungry are you?”
I thought about it, not feeling very hungry from nerves probably, I hadn’t eaten anything besides yogurt and toast, “I’m alright for now, but I’ll definitely want to eat at some point.”
“Good, then, we’re here.” I looked around as we pulled into a parking lot--we were at a miniature golf course, flooded with children. I couldn’t believe it--this was the last place I had expected to go, pretty original. “Are you ready for it, Delaney?” he inquired.
“Born ready.”
“That’s my girl.” He said, parking and jogging lightly to open my door, “Why thank you.” He smiled again, shutting it behind me, “Just a way to check out your ass.”
I rolled my eyes, half-gentleman, half-jackass. He paid and the girl behind the counter extended our putters towards us, “What color ball do you want? Pink?” he asked.
“Pink? Psh. Give me the blue one.”
He laughed, tossing the blue ball at me, “Blue balls...better for you to have it than me.” He winked, picking the pink ball, “I’m man enough.”
I rolled my eyes, cliche blue ball joke--but I was entertained that he opted for the pink. Full of surprises and contradictions.
We meandered towards the first hole, a seemingly straightforward shot, a hole at the top of the hill that was surrounded by two others, that would ultimately drop it farther away from the hole at the bottom level on the left.
“You a golfer, Delaney?”
My father and I had played in father-daughter tournaments since I was 5. Golfer was an understatement. I played innocent, “I play every now and again. You?”
He laughed, “Let’s just say, I could teach you a couple things.” I smirked, his confidence remained unfaltering. “Let’s make a bet.”
“What’s the best?” I said, resting my weight on the putter.
“I win, you show me your bedroom tonight.” My eyebrows raised, incredibly forward...not that it hadn’t crossed my mind.
I scoffed, “You wish.”
“Not up for a challenge?” he said, whispering in my ear as he grazed passed me.
I contemplated, he could be as equally talented as I was in the golfing area, but I had never lost a miniature golf game except to my father three years ago, and that was a fluke.
“What about..when I win?”
He laughed, “Dream on. Then..I show you my bedroom.”
“You’re going to have to try harder than that. I’m a lady.” I teased, shoving him lightly in the chest as he approached me.
“Hm, fine. If I win, you show me your bedroom, if you win, drinks on me whenever you come into the bar.”
I laughed, “I’m never going to your bar again.”
“I’m hurt.”
“Okay, fine, whatever.”
We shook hands and he offered to let me go first, I insisted he show me how it’s done. He took a practice swing, having a mock serious stance. I laughed, leaning up against the post where you write your scores. He tapped the ball, it went half way and then came rolling back down the hill. He jumped in frustration, laughing. He picked the ball up and put it infront of my lips, “Blow on it, for luck.”
“But you’re the competition.”
“Please.” He said, his eyes sparkling.
I laughed, blowing on it lightly as he went back to the green patch. He looked at me over his shoulder, “Are you checking out my ass?”
He looked so silly on the put-put course, towering over everything, like Hulk from the cartoons. Not as big, and definitely more handsome. I felt lucky to be seen with him, better looking than any guy I had seen in a long time.
“Just put.” I finally said, trying to appear serious, even though a smile crossed my face.
He finally made the hole after 3 strokes, I had waited until he had finished because he took up too much space. I took my stance, eyeing the hole critically. “Why so serious?” He mimicked, in the same intonation as The Joker from Batman. I laughed, “Don’t mess up my concentration.” I said, wagging my finger at him. He came over and stood behind me, moving his hands around my hips, “Spread your legs...you know for a better stance.” I felt the heat rise to my cheeks, tapping his foot with my putter, “I think I know what I’m doing..” He smiled, leaning back, crossing his arms over his broad chest, “I think so too.”
I smiled over at him, then looked back at the hole. I made contact with the ball, just hard enough so that it went into the middle hole, he took a breath, “NO!” and we scurried to watch the ball trickle out of the spout and slowly into the hole. I jumped, “Hole in one!” he laughed, picking me up and throwing me over his shoulder, “That’s it! We’re out of here!” he joked, eventually putting me down after he ran with me for a little bit, little kids were giggling and running around us, dazzled by his size. They probably recognized him because the little boys were tugging at their parents shirts.

I hate to tell you this...

Alright..yesterday I went to my program’s website to see what other countries were offered..I landed on Chile. I apply in September and would leave in February. I’m not sure how long it is or anything..but on our drive to Almeria..it keeps coming up in my mind. I’m thinking..if I don’t find a job that makes me happy, then I’ll go to Chile. I’m still going to apply to grad school at U of A, and after mulling it over..I’ll decide what to do. It’s on my mind, and I just can’t shake it.
You’re currently missing out on a little thing called Bus Karaoke. Priceless--I’m on a bus full of spanish teenagers, singing their hearts out. The current song is “Asereje” by Las Ketchup. I filmed a little snippit of “mamma mia” for you..just so you guys don’t miss out. I love these kids, they're priceless.
I find myself..just sitting. I just got home from the trip to Almeria--and I keep getting lost in my thoughts. Thoughts of home, thoughts of goodbye, thoughts of leaving.
Packing and Saying goodbye are similar in a way--in both cases, you have no idea where to start. I remember crying when I was leaving home, and now I’m crying while leaving my new home. Life.
I was riding on the bus, looking over the endless fields, and thinking about coming back to teach in Posadas but living in Cordoba. It was strange, to seriously contemplate such a big life change..I would have never thought about it before.
While we were on the bus, the students made a pseudo “good-bye speech” to me, and of course, I cried. I tried not to, but I couldn’t help it--it was a really nice gesture and Antonio reiterated, “This is the end.”
Endings are never easy. The End implies a loss of sorts. I’m feeling all types of losses--the loss of the proper words, loss of a big adventure, loss of a separate life. Why do things have to end? Because I suppose, every beginning comes from some other beginning’s end. Am I ready to come back? The answer is I don’t know. I’m not the same person I was when I left. The person who left was scared shitless of change, life, relationships. Me, now--well I’m not afraid, I’m aware. I’m allowing myself to feel the roller coaster of emotions associated with this loss, instead of forcing a smile and pretending it’s not happening, that the wheels of change aren’t moving. But, they are, and I’m along for the ride, but I can’t help but look in the rear view mirror--knowing what..who.. I’m leaving behind. The airport awaits me in just a few days..and it’s a long trip--alone.

I don’t know what to do with myself right now. I can’t bring myself to sit down and pack at the moment, I already cleaned the bathroom/kitchen..started laundry...and now I’m thinking about baking brownies. If I stay still, stay thinking, the thoughts become overwhelming. I know if I called the girls right now, they’d make me feel like coming home is the right thing to do, that I’m not as separate from everyone as I sometimes feel..but right now I feel like I’m really alone (not lonely) but alone. It’s not a feeling I want to feel again, it’s disconcerting. I feel bad even writing it. Like I said, roller coaster of emotions. How is it, you can be so happy but so devastated about the same event?

Monday, May 25, 2009

Suitcases? Packing? WTF

The suitcases are out. Some things are packed. The room is hot. Clothes are hanging outside. I made cookies..or some version of cookies. I haven’t packed yet, but I’m getting to it. Some things are in motion, while others are on pause. I’m not sure if I’m in motion or on pause..yet. Maybe both.
I just took out my Lonely Planet guide to Andalucia and read about Almeria. Almeria is known for it’s massive watchtower, the grand Alcazaba, which is the only remaining Islamic monument. There is also a little place that’s called “little Hollywood” because many Westerns have been filmed there, vamos a ver. After that, we are staying in Roquetas de Mar, which contains the quiet beaches of Parque Natural de Cabo de Gata. Cabo de Gata is where I have wanted to go since January--I’m so excited that I got the opportunity to see it. Eugenio, Laura’s father (the girl I tutor) wrote 2 books about the vegetation there. There are volcanic hills and it has turquoise water. We leave tomorrow at 8 AM, I’m going to wake up a couple hours before to shower and finish packing. I’m so tired of packing. I contemplated staying in Posadas this week after the my epic trip to Morocco. But, I decided I want to see as much as I can--so I unpacked, did laundry, and am in the process of repacking and packing for home. Packing is the w-o-r-s-t.
Our trip was so much fun. Laura, Eli, and Felisa are so funny and vibrant. Laura and Felisa radiate happiness, it’s contagious being with them. Eli is priceless, she could strike up a conversation with anyone--her face lights up when she’s talking and laughter comes easily when you’re around her. The first morning, we woke up, echoing “Tengo sueno” (I am sleepy!) but I opened the curtains to look out on the ocean and we both fought our tiredness, showered, got ready and went to wake up Felisa and Laura. Laura scrambled to the door, still sleeping, and was so confused that she had somehow overslept. As Eli and I waited in the hallway, dressed and ready to go, Eli realized she had made a terrible mistake--she never changed her cell phone and it was only 7 am and not 9 am. We all had a good laugh when Laura came out with her clothes thrown on, rushing because she thought she was late. Eli had a big blonde moment.
For breakfast, it’s basically a carb-lovers dream and a dieters nightmare. You get a massive plate of different types of bread (croissant, wheat bread, pastries, etc) served with orange juice and coffee. The first day we went to Asillah, a coastal town, where the level of poverty was present. That evening we toured around Tangier, in the center, you can feel the poverty, especially in the bustling Medina. It’s overwhelming. You can’t move without almost being hit by a car or another person. The amount of activity is incredible. After an hour or so of walking around the vendors, we left to have dinner at a really nice restaurant that had singing and dancing. The next morning we did a legitimate tour of Tangiers, I was amazed that once we left the city it reminded me of the Hollywood Hills, it’s called a little California. The mansions are incredible, Princes and Kings live there, but you can buy the house for 30,000 euros. Can you imagine? It occurred to me that I could buy a mansion in Tangier. Literally, a mansion. I was offered many camels, maybe I’ll take someone up on their offer (Really, truly, “30 mil Camels!!”) It actually happens. We rode Camels, except for Eli, and it was so strange and random. I was afraid of them at first, the baby kept coming up to me when I was getting on the other one. Laura’s camel was going crazy, talking and yelling. Mine was more docile and Felisa ended up getting on with me because I was afraid to be alone. It was definitely a crazy experience--just like a roller coaster, once I was on I loved it. One thing I don’t understand is why all of our pants were soaked with water..do the camels sweat that bad or were the blankets wet? Anyone have an answer?
By the time we made it back to Tarifa, and drove back to Posadas I was so completely tuckered out. I was speaking in Spanglish, full on Spanglish. After Eli dropped me off, the light in the apartment building wasn’t working. So I traversed the three floors in total darkness, eventually giving into using my small cell phone as a flash light. Apparently, I was so put off by the darkness and sleep deprivation that I left my keys in the front door all night. Incredible, really, truly, I can’t believe I did that. Especially because Will didn’t come back until tonight. I had lunch at Alfredo and Maria’s and they teased me, he said “you were inviting all of Posadas in!” --be careful with your keys when you’re exhausted and freaked out lol.
To sum up Morocco--it’s brightly colored, busy, exotic, exciting and overwhelming. Most of the people we met were really helpful and incredibly nice, but walking in the street can be exhausting--people are always asking you to buy something and the children selling things in the street break your heart. I was happy to come back to the slower pace and quiet of Posadas, even if it just for one day.
Feria is still going on this weekend in Cordoba and I think I’m going on Friday and maybe Saturday. I have to buckle down and pack up this weekend..so depressing. I told Maria I wanted to cook a big dinner on Monday, mexican style, and bake some brownies.
When I was running tonight, heading towards Sunset, I decided I want to find time to take photos of my running route--it’s life changing. The sierrezuela is so peaceful and green, the smell of pine trees surrounds you, and the steep hills bring a unique burn to your legs and lungs. I also like running through the golden farm fields before, the grass is as tall as me, and the roads are unpaved. Then, when I finish, I run through the outskirts of town and then ultimately down the main street. It’s a little bit of everything. Nature Reserve, Farm Fields, Town. I’m bringing my running shoes because I want to go running along the beach in Cabo de Gata. I”ll make time, because I don’t think there is anything as exhilarating as running along the beach in the morning, just you and the waves.
K, now it’s really late and I haven’t eaten dinner or packed at all. Typical. See you in 1 week.